Do you feel people are plotting against you?

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For as long as I can remember I've been paranoid that people are deliberately trying to screw me.

yyeeaaa. I actually racially profile.

Yes. I also hate when i hear people whispering because I think they're talking about me in a negative manner, or they are planning something against me.

All the time.

This is generally not a task most people care to engage in.

Most things most people want, they can't get from you because you don't have whatever it is, and even if they could get it from you somehow, it's usually much easier for them to get it another way that does not involve you.

Screwing someone over comes with great risk of the screwer-overer incurring emotional damage or social damage, provided they are not a sociopath. The average person is instilled with a degree of empathy and altruism, a conscience that can wrack them with guilt, and they hurt themselves when they hurt another person. This is because humans depend on other humans for survival, or did at one point, and screwing someone over was a good way to alienate yourself from the group you needed to support you.

You are not that interesting: Meaning most people have more important things to focus their time, attention and resources on. Screwing you over is just not a high priority.

That's not to say there aren't people who will screw you over, there are. Even some relatively average people will screw someone over in the right circumstances, but generally most people you encounter have no desire to screw you over for relatively mundane things.

Like im only joke fodder for my friends to make fun of when im not around

like any girl who seems the least bit interested in me is just after my emotional supportiveness and to make fun of me when im not around

sometimes I think people want to kill me

I know its all paranoia. Knowing that doesn't help

I agree with Chronos

There is a risk when you think that way: If you imagine that everybody is watching or plotting against you, your behavior and your looks will change slightly without you noticing it.
But people around you will realize that something might be wrong somewhere, and because there is no evident danger and suspicion around, they will start to behave like if they wanted to discretely know why.

I pretty much assume everyone hates me, all the time. Even "friends". This is what I automatically assume about people:

a) Worry that they talk behind your back
b) Worry that they make fun of you when you're gone
c) Tell lies about you
d) Start hating you for no reason
e) Just start hating you
f) Everything I do or say pisses people off

I only don't think like this with family.

I think part of this stems from the fact most aspies DID have teenagers doing these things. Then it continues in adult life.

I often wonder what my life would have been like if I never attended school or was homed school. I bet I would not have high blood pressure nad a lot nicer more trusting person. At every job or grade in school there was always one NT who would tell me what everyone would say about me when I was not around. They always told me they were sick of how two face everyone was with me.

My younger brother and I do not look like brothers so a lot of people are suprised to find out were are brothers. We had one or two studyhalls or lunchtimes together in school and he heard a lot of stuff said by so called friends he would repeat what they said when we got home. I never let people know he was my brother or even talked to him because they might start picking on him because of me. You do not know what that did to us because we were so close back then.

Yes, that's just one of many things I worry about during the course of the day.

I feel its somethin like... since people dont tell you when you are being annoying or stupid... and you may lack the ability to gauge a response from a persons face and body language, you just end up assuming that they think you are being annoying and stupid all the time and they only ever just put up with you to be nice

I used to test people during my teenage years by being purposefully annoying. No one ever said anything.

I also have no concept of trust so that doesn't really help

Yeah. Sometimes it goes even further, into suspicions that various people are actually the same person trying to mess with my head.

I have had it for the best part of 30 years.

I suffered a lot of prejudice, my education, happiness, self-esteem and confidence was destroyed. I had a phobia of young women.

But I did something about it when I turned 35 years old.

Although there are people who are better than myself, I can count myself lucky not to have debt, mortgage and a nagging woman hanging over me.

I've often had that feeling, but unfortunately I found out that it wasn't just my imagination. The way I found out is that one person would say something to me that I'd only told to another unrelated person. Or one person would use the exact same unusual words or phrases to me that another person had previously said to me privately. I correctly deduced that people were in fact talking behind my back. I once received an email by accident in which one person I had confided in years ago was telling all my private stuff (with lying twists added to it) to another person they'd meant to send it to. It is only considered paranoia if it isn't actually happening -- which it is.

Definitely this, although only slightly less with family.

I'm the opposite.

I assume that I am mostly invisible to the world and am actually surprised to discover someone has thought about me.