I should add that I also have a HUGE problem with dressing my age. I still buy lots of clothes from Delia's and other teen shops. I like cute, cartoon T-shirts, jeans and Converse. My friends all dress like women but I dress like a 15 year-old boy. My main issue is showing off my body as an adult female's. I dunno if other Aspie girls have this problem too...
Joined: 30 May 2010 Age: 47 Gender: Male Posts: 2,872 Location: England
23 Oct 2010, 6:52 am
Believe me you are very lucky. It may seem frustrating right now but in the longer term it should become a positive. I have always looked younger than my age. I remember when I was 24 somebody guessed my age to be 16! It was a problem because buying alcohol or tobacco was a ordeal at times. Plus I always thought nobody was taking me seriously because they just assumed I was younger than I was.
Now I am 40 and people tell me I look like I am in my late 20's. So I don't mind that at all. I think if your young looks continue by the time you get to your 30's people will take you seriously and probably fancy you too!
Joined: 23 Feb 2010 Gender: Female Posts: 26,492 Location: UK
25 Oct 2010, 12:22 pm
It's normal to look a few years younger. Or older. My auntie's boyfriend is 44 and he literally looks about 64! That is rather shameful in a way. And my colleague at work is 30, but looks about 22 at least, which is quite a bit of difference. Nobody really looks exactly their age though. It's normal to look a few years younger. Your face doesn't change on every birthday. It's only worse if you look a whole generation younger or older. Not just 4 or 5 years.
Joined: 23 Oct 2010 Age: 37 Gender: Male Posts: 102
25 Oct 2010, 12:32 pm
I can tell the difference in my own face (comparing from older photos) but I have the same thing. I still closely resemble my 17-year old photos closely, aside from maybe being a bit thinner.
I'm sure though that once I start treating myself better I'll probably start looking younger again. I don't say it's entirely a bad thing actually; judging by what I've seen Aspies are like big kids anyway. So what's so bad with eternal youth, eh? Haha.
I'm 24 and have the face of a 18 year old. I got into college as a mature student a couple of years ago, my class mates are 5 years younger than me but half of them look older than me. As a kid I was always small for my age and I caught up in height when I was 12 but I never lost the baby face. It used to bother me but nowadays I see it as a good thing.
Joined: 1 Nov 2010 Age: 44 Gender: Female Posts: 460 Location: Cambridge, UK
25 Nov 2010, 7:51 am
I'm 30 and always have to carry my passport with me when I go to the shops to buy alcohol as 9 times out of 10 I get asked for ID. It's quite flattering but also a bit annoying. Even when they don't ask I can see them looking at me and debating whether to ask or not.
Joined: 11 Jan 2009 Age: 42 Gender: Female Posts: 651 Location: United States
25 Nov 2010, 8:27 am
I'm 28 & most people think I'm 18 to 20. Usually, it works in my favor because I have very little life experience & people are more forgiving of that when they assume I'm that young. It's when I tell them my real age that things get bad.
_________________ ?Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.? _Theodor Seuss Geisel (Dr. Seuss)
Joined: 31 Jul 2010 Age: 33 Gender: Female Posts: 160 Location: St. Louis, MO USA
25 Nov 2010, 9:00 am
I have the same problem. I'm 19 and although it's getting better since I cut my hair short (which REALLY helps) people usually think I'm in high school or even grade school and I HATE IT!! ! I'm really small too so that sucks. Even people I work with who've known me for 5 years or more mistake my age or say I could pass for a 14 yr. old.
Honestly, I wish I could give you a solution but I really don't know what to say. It just sucks.
Joined: 14 Aug 2008 Age: 52 Gender: Male Posts: 12,003 Location: australia
25 Nov 2010, 10:14 am
i never used my facial muscles much because i do not think or feel with my face.
my face is dormant most of the time so it is not crinkled or weather beaten by utility.
i am loathe to join this post but people think i am in my mid 20's. mostly they predict i am 26.
Joined: 6 Jun 2009 Age: 38 Gender: Female Posts: 89
25 Nov 2010, 11:16 am
Another young faced person here Just last week I got asked "So how old are you, 14 eh?" I tried my best not to laugh and said I'm actually 24. The lady was stunned.