directness

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is it ever the case for anyone that they need people to be direct with them? and get angry when they are not? i really prefer that people be direct with me, otherwise i feel like they are playing games, idk, bc i can't figure them out, or what they want, and i get mad that i even have to. it's like a waste of time to me.

i know i've gotten angry before too with people who joke all the time and are never serious (like my ex). does anyone else have this? i know this is possible to be just a general human annoyance or difference of personality, or general human communication, idk.

Yes. I want people to clearly say what they mean and to truly mean what they say, and I seldom bother myself with people who either cannot (and do not at least try) and/or who simply will not do that.

I would have to think that anyone who is aspie wants this. None of us get the games people play nor can we complete in them.

Yes I do. I don't want people telling me things and then expecting me to do the opposite what they say.

I also can't stand people who are never serious and my first ex was this way and he just didn't care if I took things literal. He expected me I would just pick up on it and get used to it. No I just stop listening to them and taking them seriously and I want nothing to do with them. But I can't do that in relationships. I won't live that way.

I also hate it when people expect me to read their minds and be psychic.

I prefer directness as well because I'm usually pretty blind and dense when it comes taking subtle hints. The only objection I have to people being direct are the times they use directness as a means for subjective criticism that is intended simply to be sadistic.