List one Aspie thing you don't understand

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yes the first one especially : sometimes when i have an important decision to make, my brain won't react. when i try to decide if i should leave a boyfriend for example, i become numb, not knowing what i feel, not knowing how i should feel , unable to think.
this is not only what i don't understand but also what i wish i could change about my brain. The numbness in times of decision making.

Why do we get obsessed with a person?

Why do we get stuck on something and can't get it out of our heads? ( talking about obsessions)

Why are obsessions/special interests important to some aspies they neglect their kids or homework or work and other important things because they would rather spend their whole time with that fixation? Why can't they put that aside and only pursue it in their spare time?

that is something that Aspies have to learn, in much the same way as they learn to tie their shoes. It is not instinctive or intuitive with Aspies. I used to have a hard time answering that question. How would have to ask whoever asked that question, what they had in mind. What it my physical condition, my location, my current state of health etc. etc.. In short I complicated what NTs consider a very basic thing.

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It took me a while as well to learn how to answer the question. I usually find these days that a "yes" will suffice (unless I can be honest with the person.)

What was worse was "what's up." It took me a long time to understand that question, as I had no idea what it meant.

This was me last night. I ended up wandering around and around the supermarket looking for something different to eat (of which there were a million options) but just not being able to pick one because I couldn't deal with the fact I'd be breaking my routine. I almost started crying. It makes me so mad with myself!

All the stereotypes, even the positive ones.

Why do I feel like I'm going to burst if I don't mention my obsessions at least once in a conversation?

How can one be so smart yet so unbelievably stupid at the same time?

Why do Aspies walk fast?

Why do most Aspies wear glasses?

To translate it to a language a lot of aspies will have an easy time understanding, it goes like this. It's a human equivalent of the "ping" and "ack" commands. Basically,
"how are you" = "ping",
"fine" or "OK" = "ack".

So, when you ping a computer, and it doesn't give you an ack in response, you know that something is not right. Maybe the Ethernet cable is loose, maybe the DHCP settings got corrupted, or maybe someone turned it off. But whatever it is, something is not right. And if you're not a computer tech, it's generally not your concern to diagnose.

Similarly, when someone says "how are you" and doesn't get a "fine" in response, they figure something is not right. Maybe the person ignored them. But why can't you talk about your true state of mind? Look at it this way: when you type in a "ping" command, you're not supposed to see a list of open ports, and if you do, you'll wonder what's going on. Same with human communication: "how are you? / fine" means "ping / ack", not "ping / display open ports".

If someone wants to find out in more detail, they'd ask "how are things going in [time period]?". That translates to "netstat -a" in command line. So, if someone wants to see all open ports, the proper command is "netstat -a", as opposed to "ping". Same concept applies, though.

Hope my computer analogies make things perfectly clear. Enjoy!

I'm not saying all do, but I've read somewhere that mostly Aspie males are obsessed computers and/or video games, and most female Aspies are obsessed with a person or people. Why?

And I don't know if I have read wrong, but once I read that lots of Aspies (in Britain especially) have an obsession with Thomas the Tank Engine when they're little. Why Thomas the Tank Engine?

Why is AS so precise?

The one thing I find most puzzling of all about me and my fellow aspies is our propensity, nae, urge to segregate ourselves from the rest of humanity. I realise that a lot of us don't really have a choice in how their surroundings react to them, and haven't had as much understanding as I have been so lucky to receive a surplus of, but really?

We're not extraterrestrial beings or a strange animal or whatever we may wish we were, we're simply human beings, just like the rest of humanity (duh!). We eat, we sleep, we defecate and if we mate with a member of the opposite sex it will most likely result in offspring. To try to pretend that we're inherently superior or inferior in some way is a somewhat hilarious, but mostly depressing notion.

here are a few AS things I dislike about myself....
1)How I give fantastic wordy lectures on my interests and random useless information.
But.. when someone asks me my opinion about something, i'm at a loss for words and cant convey what I truly want to say, and i talk in circles.

2) I cant lie, cant handle liars/even when it's a joke.

3) I dont laugh at jokes that normal people laugh at.. but if i make one up(or come across one that i actually like) then i will laugh maniacally.

4) I hate that it seems like everyone is yelling when they "really arent".... I am a habitual husher... SHHHHHHHHH SHHHH!! !! you're so loud, pleaseeee talk softer.

5) I come across as very mean, sarcastic, hateful, but i think it is because i dont cushion my speech often. I just say what is...without fluffing it up.
ie- 'That shirt makes you look fat. Go change it...'
when i should say, 'that shirt makes you look bigger than you really are... i think you'd look better in the other shirt.'

also my facial expressions seem to be mean, hateful, bored, worried...etc

so people that dont know me on a regular basis probably think i am rude, sarcastic, etc... when in all actuality, i'd like to think of myself as very very nice and polite.

The stereotype that all people with AS are braniacs who excel at math. Math was my worst subject in elementary school and when I started juniour high I started failing nearly all my grades.

We are all different from eachother, and I love reading how other Aspies on here see things.

I get bored when I'm talking about my own special interests for too long. I find I talk more about my anxieties than my special interests.
I'm always lying (not now though). I find it easy to lie more than tell the truth. And because of my difficulties with proper communication, I tend to make the conversation shorter or easier by making up something, if I know the truth will be too long-winded to explain.
Actually, I do. My friend sent me rude jokes on text, and they really made me laugh.
Often I feel that people talk to quietly and I don't hear them. I only get irritated when they really are yelling, but if they are talking to me in a loud voice, I am too busy listening than to take any notice of the volume.
I don't normally say that sort of thing to people, but if I was in a bad mood and a close relative had a top on what makes me feel sick (usually things make me feel sick), I would say, ''ohh, that top makes me feel sick, don't sit near me when I'm eating!'' Rude, I know!
I can relate to this. I am always holding a grumpy face - but it's because holding a grumpy face saves more energy than keeping up a happy face. And often I've been told that I walk along the street with a nervous and unconfident face - but again, it's comfortable for me to hold a negative face. When I'm relaxed my face relaxes, and under neutral.
At work, when I get something into my head what bothers me, I suddenly become very aloof and can't shake out of it. Then people consider me as moody, and they go and sit somewhere else and talk to someone else whilst having lunch. That makes me worse.

The ability to remember and forget, ex NT's can put something behind them but I can still remember what I said when and where I insulted them

How come I understand other people's facial expressions, body language, tone of voice, intentions and emotions generally well, but when I do tests on the internet about facial expressions, body language, tone of voice, intentions and emotions, I always fail?