Aspies and feeling entitled.

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I think we live in a society where feeling entitled is the new norm. Nothing to do with being Aspie or otherwise.

However, our society is more disability-conscious now, which I think is a good thing. I don't expect NTs to 'bend, twist and distort' for me - but equally, I don't expect to have to bend, twist and distort for them, which is what was expected of me for a very long time. A bit of mutual understanding and respect goes a long way.

For people in wheelchairs, society has recognised the need for accessibility, and so laws have been put in place to ensure public buildings have ramps and lifts, etc., so that people in wheelchairs are not prevented from accessing them.

With hidden disabilities like Aspergers, it's a bit more difficult to define accessibility, and society has taken longer to recognise the need. I almost had to quit my college course because my difficulties with organisation, fluorescent lights and understanding ambiguous instructions were seen as my problem for me to solve alone, and so I was getting no support and was totally overwhelmed. Despite the tremendous fatigue I was getting from processing overload, I was not allowed to switch to part time studying when I asked if I could do this. When I got a diagnosis of Aspergers, I was able to access support and can continue my studies, part time and with support for organisation difficulties. The lecturers make small adjustments for me, which make a huge positive difference to me. I don't see this as me 'feeling entitled', but more a question of respecting people's differences, and not restricting access to something simply because a person has different needs.

"I don't know if she realizes that there are older aspies here who were never diagnosed and had ZERO accomodations as children and are still suffering from the consequences and trauma of it."

I'm one of these people - and I go from suicidal to homicidal emotions every few months. I'm 30 years old, treated like s**t where I work, and have very few options available to me that seem to help. My therapy sessions are a joke / waste of time, so to summarize I have very little patience for NT individuals that don't treat me well.

To be honest, I scare the s**t out of them.

I try not to associate with those types of aspies, or anyone who feels entitled for that matter.

I feel entitled to the things that most people feel entitled to.

I know this is an old thread and the OP is long gone. I had that same attitude as the OP's sister. I felt entitled to getting everything my way like having a clean house, not have many kids over, etc. but I was 16 when I went through it. Also at age 13 I was trying to be like the other kids so I was trying different personalities and I also got suspended. In a way this was all normal teen stuff.

From what I see, the people on here just want a level playing field. I can't argue against that. The entitlement types don't seem to post here or at least I haven't seen any yet.