What are girls with Asperger's like?

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Sorry if this type of thread has been made before, but I was wondering what the typical girl with Asperger's is like? Obviously men have it a lot more then women, but what personality traits do they usually possess? There's a guy in my school who I'm 99.99% sure has it, even though he's never been diagnosed. There's a girl who I think might have it, but I'm not sure.

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I'm more interested in 60s boy bands, than I am in trains and vehicles.

^^higher rats of DIAGNOSIS.

also, im part of an asper chat group. it's evenly girls to guys on there, but id say more females chat more often than the males.

EDIT: Also I notice 2 people who acted aspieish IRL who were girls, they were quiet & shy. I was able to basically talk to one of them for a period of time, and she'd let me take them out (downtown, light fireworks w/her, etc). Apparently I did something(s) to annoy her but she never said so & I asked her =/

ehh.

Also one aspie who acted neurotypical as hell, she 'outer' herself >_<

Somewhere in women's discussion there was a chart of aspie girl characteristics vs. characteristics in males, but I don't remember what thread it was in You can still find a lot of articles if you google characteristics of AS in girls, though.

List of Female Asperger's Traits

Bear in mind that, just as with males, not every female will possess all of these traits.

And yes, females are simply underdiagnosed, for a variety of reasons.

In my very limited experiance with other female aspies, some are unnoticeable while others are noticeable. But aspie females are more likely to cover it up better. Ive only been in a few aspie groups where ive encountered some female aspies but ive never really knew them. Ive only known aspie males, 3 in RL and 2 online, since my diagnosis. Id say theres more signs in males from an outside perspective. I tend to suspect a many people here and there for being aspie and Id say I suspect males way more often then females.

I've yet to meet a female aspie, but being one myself:

I'm very quiet and shy
Into computers, technology, computer games (ps3,wii etc) etc.
Love watching documentarys and informative tv shows
Don't have any friends
Work in IT
Love animals (prefer their company to people)
Into cars.... fast cars.
Ride motorbikes (dirt and road)
Hate leaving the house
Can't get along with girls

I get along really well with some guys, as our interests tend to align.

thought of a few more things to add:
I go through each day "pretending" to be someone else. I never get to totally relax and be myself until I get home.
I hate going out to public places, as I feel that everyone is watching me and is judging me (eg. terrible clothes selection, hair not right, make up done badly or lack of make up. etc.)
Was always being told that I need to "come out of my shell" as a child, and was always receiving comments about being shy. I never used to fit in at school and its only in my late 20's that I've learned about aspergers and so much makes sense now.

I think females are under-diagnosed because:

- A lot of doctors still see autism as a 'male' disorder
- Girls in general are taught to socialise from a younger age
- Social inadequacy in girls is often written off as being 'sweet', or 'shy'
- The symptoms often don't show up until the teen years
- Doctors prefer to label girls with 'emotional' disorders/personality disorders

That's just some of my theoretical reasons why...

I would say, the true ratio is more like 3 girls to every 4 boys, if not even.

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I have HFA, ADHD, OCD & Tourette syndrome. I love animals, especially my bunnies and hamster. I skate in a roller derby team (but I'll try not to bite )

I think Jellybean is right, some more reasons here:

many girls are not diagnosed for a long period of time, leading to actual emotional/personality disorders like anxiety, OCD, Cutting, Anorexia etc. And they are given those diagnosi exclusively, even though undiagnosed aspergers or autism may have caused it.

living a whole life with aspergers, but not knowing it, is very stressfull, especially to girls, since as its already been mentioned, girls are more social in society.

I've never had anorexia. I love food too much. I did know one girl with AS who had anorexia.

Im not diagnosed yet, and maybe I have another disorder on the spectrum, but I assume AS.
Im annoyed by emotionality, its like a waste of time. My feelings are personal and I wander why everybody has to show their interior to everybody. Sometimes I feel conservative because people tell and show things I think is too private.
Im not shy but some people are afraid of me before they get to know me.
Im not sweet. If I wasnt pretty I would feel like a man.
I can sit for hours, also through the whole night on the same place if I have someting interesting to brain about. I like to build things and learn things and am currently doing my 5th language.
In school I found that a lot of what the teachers said was redundant, and I filtered the little information out of their big stories and would often ask them why they didnt just say it in 1 sentence, which I had ready in the end.
I dont care about social status, age, profession or personality etc. when I make my mind about other people. The most interesting thing is how conscious a person is about him/herself. I have accepted to be an outsider and I deal with other people in such a way that they dont see me as an outsider. Ive learned to control what I seem to be to others, and only in company with a few selected people or alone I can be myself. Sometimes though, I dont care at all what people think and shut the world out.
If I dont force myself to do something, I can go a week without showering and stay in my apartment until Im so hungry that I have to go buy some food.
On weekends I go to parties and spend 99% of the time on the dancefloor. The rest 1% I try to get away from people.
I have a boyfriend who has all the skills I dont have, and just because he exists, I go shower and fix things that has to be done. I have anxieties because "I live on the wrong planet" and am very sensible to smells and sounds. Im a freelance translator and have often trouble organizing the tasks and deliver on time.
I would describe myself as honest. The people I love know it and also know that its honest.

To get where I am now and to participate in social situations I constantly tried to please everybody and was often turned down by women. Men always thought I was flirting with them and I often felt ridiculous because I tried so hard to participate that I forgot to consider what I wanted myself.