Do you ever catch people staring at you? How do you feel?

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Yes I know what it means, in your original post you put 'obvious' instead of oblivious, is all.

I didn't notice. (mutters "Damn Dyslexia" & shakes fist angrily) My bad

sorry, i couldn't help but comment on it. damn flaw of mine.

i seem to lack the psychic gene which enables me to know when somebody is observing me or staring at me. the lions' share of the time, i doubt they are. at the same time, i cannot get away with even a quick glance at somebody else without said person whipping around at me with a "WTF?!" expression on their face. to get around this, i have taken to wearing a pair of "rear view mirror" glasses that enable me to look at folk as they walk by me in the opposite direction. they don't seem to notice me then.

It wouldn't surprise me if that is related to AS. We tend to notice nonverbal stuff less. I was accused of staring at people a lot when I was in school & I wasn't even looking at people. I was daydreaming or looking at something else. Might be related to my vision disorder thou; I look at things from odd angles sometimes instead of looking directly at em so I'll assume people aren't looking at me even if I manage to notice em staring in my direction

This trips me right out. I attempt a quick glance at anybody whos not completely back to to me and they whip their head around and make eye contact. I dont know if its psychic intuition, mind beams or just good peripheral vision but it makes it difficult to discreetly check out girls

I do, but anytime I stare at someone they always stare at me.

My sister-in-law is black and my brother is white. When they are together they get all kinds of odd stares. My sister-in-law simply waves at the people who stare and they back off. I found sticking my tounge out at them works just as well if not better and if that dosen't work, go up to them and ask, "What's the matter? Never seen an autistic person before?"

I don't pay any attention so I don't know if people look at me but when I hear about it, I don't care. I am never seeing those people again so their thoughts don't matter. I'm just oblivious and tune out the world.

When people stare, I don't pay attention
I have no idea why they do it but I don't let it bother me. I probably don't even notice them, anymore. They could be staring at me nonstop and I could be totally oblivious

Uh, yes. I actually have a fear of being starred at. (weird, eh?)

I was told that they were probably starring at me because I am such a beautiful girl, but I don't fit society's standard attractiveness at all, so I don't think so.

I have this "thing" about starring. I feel horrible when I stare at someone for more than 3 seconds. I just can't do it. No matter how hard I try, I just naturally, look away, I guess.

When I was little, and had meltdowns, people would totally stop what they were doing, drop everything and stare at me. They would be shocked that a 4 year old child was having a meltdown. I don't why.

Yes! I usually have to make an effort not to look at people because even crossing their gaze for what seems like an instant gets them all annoyed. On the other hand, I have found that staring people down intentionally is a good way to deal with harassment. Someone was talking about me on the city bus once, and I just stared at her and it made her very uncomfortable (perhaps not advisable for men or young women as it could result in confrontation).

But as far as people staring at me, that really doesn't happen.

But this anxiety of people looking at me what I've got is something I'm hooked up on and I can't get it out of my head on my own. It's like somebody who smokes. They never smoked before, but as soon as they started smoking they just got hooked up on the habit. I think anxiety is a similar thing (psychologically). People often either say to me, ''just ignore them'', or ''don't look at them''. But if I don't look at people, how will I know when there's someone I know coming along? I am always rushing past people I know, then they end up calling my name, and I hate my name and also everybody looks at me when my name is called. And anyway, I see people stare at me in the corners of my eyes. Once I wore sunglasses, and my head was facing straight ahead so it looked like to other people that I was looking straight ahead, but instead I moved my eyes onto other people (but keeping my head facing forwards), and I still caught some looking at me. I have no idea what they're looking at, because I'm a perfectly normal human-being just like everyone else in the street; I dress presentable, I have washed hair all the time, I am slim, I am attractive, I walk up straight, I have a nice fashionable handbag from New Look (which is a really fashionable clothes shop for young women). So I don't look any different to anyone else, especially with my sunglasses on. But it's only women what still seem to have a problem with me (judging by the way they look at me, which is usually a glare), whilst men just smile at me (which I don't mind). And kids look up at me too (and that includes tiny babies). So how could a young female of 20 years old not be upset by women glaring at me when I look just as nice as any other person? It's a form of intimidation. Anyway, when I go out I couldn't possibly look any different even if I wanted to (unless I started doing something out of the ordinary, which I never, ever do). I look around and there are crowds of people everywhere, all different ages, wearing all different clothes, all different shapes and sizes, all different colour hair, all different looks, all different ways of walking - some walking slow, others walking quick, some sitting on a bench, some standing about, some waiting for a bus, some talking in crowds, some on their own, some rushing..... Everybody you see are different - so what is it about me?

I can feel if people are looking at me so it bothers me....because it feels like they are burning holes into whatever they are looking at. Very distracting......I also cannot stand to have people directly behind me.

If I do, it's usually because I've been sitting there staring into space, not realizing there's a person in my line of sight. So when I come out of it and actually see what's in front of me and there's a person looking back at me, it's really awkward.