Which school years were you most isolated from your peers??

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This is when people bullied me the most. Prior to this, life was about playing and making friends. In middle school, it's all about identifying with a social group, and when kids wanted to make themselves look different, they tended to pick on the ones that were. In high school, things tended to shift a bit, and people were more focused on developing romantic relationships and making a name for themselves through activities, so the focus kind of shifted back off those of us that were not the same.

Middle school. I had friends up until then, but after I started middle school really isolated and didn't have any friends. My anxiety started getting a lot worse around that time. I was pretty isolated for most of high school as well, but I think middle school was slightly worse.

I have really been isolated my entire life, although I have had relatively close friendships during childhood and adolescence. Despite those friendships, I have always felt different and isolated from most kids my age. I never really felt like people understood me, either because I was more cognitively mature/advanced or else I just thought differently. I always was able to relate better with adults, especially during adolescence. From ages 10-14, most of my weekends were spent with my great Aunt. During family parties, I would always sit with the adults and listen to their conversations rather than hanging out with family who were around my age. I eventually learned to think and act like a mature adult. When I was 14, in January of 2003, my great Aunt died, which had an odd but profound effect on my mental health. At her wake I was talking to the director of the funeral parlor; he asked me about school, so I told him I was a freshman, and he assumed freshman in college when really I was a freshman in high school. Many of my peers who were my age often commented upon my ability to converse like an adult, and, despite my real age, I always felt like an adult rather than a high school teenager. Consequently, I deemed most kids my age to be too immature to hang out with.

I voted college, but grades 7-8 I was quite isolated too.

None of the answers are accurate for me, so I didn't vote. I was equally isolated from peers among all school years, and also toddlerhood and early 20s. From age 7 or 8, I began to befriend adults in their retirement years, and that same trend continues to this day. However, I was much more able to interact with peers after my mid-20s. This is probably because I would get acquainted with them in the business world as opposed to school or social situations. Once acquainted, I guess my peers found me more acceptable than they may have in a social situation. I'm 43, and still fear having to interact in any way with anyone under about 25. I feel very awkward and judged as a "weird-o" in those cases. But just as when I was 8 or 9, I'm 100% comfortable to interact with World War II veterans.

Charles

I was very much isolated for my school years.

Actually I'm in the last grade of High School (I'm a senior, in my country there are only 5 years of High school) and I'm very isolated. The previous years I was less because I made "friends" with some classmates (that bullied me in the past) and I was more "intregrated", but the the last year they suddenly turned again againts me without reasons and I had to deal with them (denouncing them at the school coordination, fortunately all went good) and since them I'm again isolated (because since all that I didn't want anything with the rest of my classmates, who many are friends of them).

Honestly I never was identified with my school group, and that friendship that I made was like a "peace treaty" to avoid problems. This year I'm only thinking in graduate with excellent grades and not in the graduation party and things like that.

I only have some few friends of my childhood, but I'm satisfied and happy with them.

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Nobody has voted for K-2 yet .

My pattern has been to have one close friend and that's it. I moved a lot so I often lost the one close friend and then had to make a new one. (I don't know how it happened, since I don't know how to make friends -- it seems they just picked me rather than the other way around). There were periods in between when I had no friends, and I feel that way even now. In adulthood, my one close friend was my partner, but I don't have a partner right now.

I've read somewhere that this is not an uncommon pattern for Aspies. I wonder if anyone else has had the same experience.

In my own words few if any people have willfully & sincerely chosen to stay near me..I don't feel completely 100% bad about such cause, I realise that AS & NT friendships have their inate difficulites.The difficulties as such require a great amount of compassion,patience,understanding,etc from both applicable parties involved.I've tried a great deal over the years to make friends and in a way of saying such, I'v simply let life make it's own circumstantial interactions.Not saying I've given up but, have found friendship to be problematic..

I was always a loner to an extent, yet at times it was easier to find other loners to relate to. Years 6-8 were the worst, especially 6, but in some ways I think I may have actually been more of a loner in grades 9-10 but due to less bullying they weren't as bad. I think I found my social place in school those last 2 years, with a larger group of people who were either socially awkward also, preferred to not be part of the "normal" crowd, or were one of those rare few just really nice people who could get along well with anyone. Those last 2 years were the least stressful years I think I made it through in school.