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20 Feb 2011, 1:21 pm

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I think it's anxiety based, to the point where I'm so anxious I'm no longer aware of the flow of the conversation. It all depends on the circumstances too, for me. I could talk to the same person and my ability to do so comfortably would depend on any number of factors. I may enjoy a passing chat with someone I know from work, but if I had to drive somewhere with them I'd be frozen and probably start blurting or babbling as an overcompensation. I really wasn't this way before meds. I didn't talk and people commented on it too.


I agree that it's anxiety-based, but I'm not really sure if it's due to the meds or not. I've never been on any psychotropic drugs whatsoever (being undiagnosed) and I still have the same problem you describe. There might just be a spurious relationship between your drugs and this particular issue.

At the same time, I am undiagnosed after all, and possibly not an aspie...



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20 Feb 2011, 1:31 pm

I do the same thing, and the only way I can *occasionally* control it is when I first know and concentrate only on what I actually know the other person truly needs or wants to hear. But in the case you have mentioned, I would guess your son's mentor still did not hear anything he did not already either need or want to know.


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20 Feb 2011, 1:51 pm

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If I talk too much I start blurting, so I talk very little.


People think I'm smarter when I'm quiet. Once I start blabbing, I say some dumb things. It bothers me less than before. I still don't talk much because I'm lazy. I wish people could just read my mind.



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20 Feb 2011, 5:57 pm

ouroboros wrote:
Aimless wrote:
I think it's anxiety based, to the point where I'm so anxious I'm no longer aware of the flow of the conversation. It all depends on the circumstances too, for me. I could talk to the same person and my ability to do so comfortably would depend on any number of factors. I may enjoy a passing chat with someone I know from work, but if I had to drive somewhere with them I'd be frozen and probably start blurting or babbling as an overcompensation. I really wasn't this way before meds. I didn't talk and people commented on it too.


I agree that it's anxiety-based, but I'm not really sure if it's due to the meds or not. I've never been on any psychotropic drugs whatsoever (being undiagnosed) and I still have the same problem you describe. There might just be a spurious relationship between your drugs and this particular issue.

At the same time, I am undiagnosed after all, and possibly not an aspie...


I didn't mean I thought the meds cause the blurting, but that the meds eased my social anxiety a bit and I became more verbal as a result, thus creating more opportunity for gaffes and inane babble.



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20 Feb 2011, 6:11 pm

Only in the last few years I've become aware of doing this. But I've been doing it all my life. I hate it. Nowadays I mostly just avoid people, when possible. So that's my strategy to control it.



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20 Feb 2011, 6:31 pm

OMG! Major issue for me. I tend to blurt out such as NO! (when mom would of said No to candy in the store anyone) I say it. Katelyn (the 11 yr. old) hates this. :-( Also today I was reading a FB post (of a cousin) and said Katelyn might end up like this (got half way through the post) and mom said SHUT UP! (harsh/rude tone) I cried and had a meltdown. :-( I've always been told think before you act but I never learned how. :-(



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20 Feb 2011, 9:26 pm

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So my response to that was yes and then start blurting about my own lifelong struggles that are so similar to my son's and how I think I might be on the spectrum too. I just met the man 10 minutes earlier for heaven sake. :oops: Anyway he just looked at me with a serious expression on his face and nodded. I did the same damned thing earlier this week when I ran into one of my son's friend's mother in a waiting room. All of the sudden I babbling about the amygdala.


That sounds familiar to me. I find that if I don't watch everything that I say, I will reveal the most personal things. I have learned some control over the years, but it is not very natural for me. Once I let my guard down, I just start talking. I do not do that much anymore, but that is because I have reached the point where I hardly say anything at all.

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This is one of those situations that most non aspies don't understand and say things like "just be yourself", "don't be so hard on yourself", "you don't need to pretend around me" etc without realising that they've never, ever seen me not pretending.


Exactly. People do not understand how hard I have to work to maintain a persona that is able to socialize. If I did not constantly think about what I was saying, I would either bore people with my interests or offend them with my honesty.


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20 Feb 2011, 10:13 pm

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This is one of my top problems. It's like: a) my mind moves too fast, and my mouth just goes; b) I have to say what I'm thinking; c) there's no filter for what I think versus what I say. I hate it.


That's how it is for me. My mind moves so fast and I feel I have to say what I'm thinking otherwise I'll forget it and it'll be lost forever!

I started randomly talking about temperature scales and how it was when Celcius first made his and how I like Kelvin and gave my reasons. Their mind "hurt" from the science, but I had to say it because it was on my mind, despite the fact we were talking about cats. I think what happened is I mentioned the average temperature for cats and yeah...

I then started going on about absolute 0 and cold liquids and how I liked in the movie Akira where one of the children was frozen at a temperature of 0.5 kelvin. Then I started talking about early scientist and their pursuit for cold and I noticed they didn't care anymore and stopped.