Have you noticed this in NTs?

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Yes, I have noticed that some NTs can shun someone or be deaf.

Actually i use my hands too much which is just one of the things that people think is weird when i communicate.

My Granddaughter has a knack for that, she'd put her hands on my face, push one cheek up. one cheek down, twist my head so we were face to face and inches apart and say "Gramppa. I'm talking to you!" That always got my complete attention!

I don't think so. I have noticed that a lot of people just don't know how to listen. Just because someone is an NT, does not mean that they are capable of comprehending conversation. Some people just are so in love with their own viewpoint that they simply shut out anything that disagrees with it. That is their problem, not yours.

I have had this exact conversation with people who are clearly NTs. We will both agree that another person does not listen to anything that anybody says.

Jamesy wrote: maybe its just because 'normal normal' people don't like people who are quircky and they prefer more down to earth people?

what the hell does quirkiness have to do with down to earth? it seems to me to be two different things, quirky is being a little eccentric, off center, odd, silly, weird, and all that s**t. down to earth people are those who have their heads on right, they are sensible, practical, a calm ever broad personality? to me you can have your head on right but you are a quirky person as well. hell im down to earth, i live here, but im quirky as hell. plus its probably a little bias to say that normal normal people are down to earth and we are the quirky ones. plus down to earth seems a little boring, dont you think?

This may shock some people here but a lot of NT people have communication skills problems. It is not just an ASD issue.

An AS person with communication issues will get more scrutiny than an NT would.

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Yes i have this problem. Most just pretty much ignore whatever i have to say, especially if i happen to disagree with them (what would be the point in conversation if everyone thought the same thing). I find that most of the time they will just cut me off with out even hearing what i have to say, too in love with the sound of their own voice. Then they will turn around and complain that i don't talk enough. Shut up for half a second and maybe i would. >_<

This is of course when they are trying to have an actual conversation with me. When they're trying to do their small talk i honestly couldn't care less.

Although there are a few NTs that i can actually converse with (maybe, i suspect a few may not quite be NT), and this seems to be because they listen to what i have to say and reply to it. I think that most NTs believe that if i don't reply in the EXACT way that they expected, that the conversation is a bust. This annoys me.

Definitely. Is it because I'm projecting the wrong non-verbal cues that tell them to ignore me? Not sure at all. I find that it doesn't matter what comes out of my mouth. It can be as bland as today's weather or as bizarre as poop-powered space elevators, but there's very little response, especially in a small group. I can talk to one NT almost normally, but if another NT joins the conversation, I am automatically ignored by both. The non-verbal cues must be 100x more engaging than any verbalizations of any kind.

I guess this can also depend on your manner of speech. If your like me and you include every single detail then NTs might find it annoying and try to screen out all the excess words. True NTs are very into body language and also implied meanings. Personally I say every little detail when I could say less words and be more careful with the words so they'll imply the rest, NTs perfer that. True some NTs dont always listen in general...depends who ur talking to. Or maybe your being monotone so they dont wanna listen. There can be varyng factors, considering that Ive never heard u talk or communicate...I cant say.

Most of the time people dont understand what I am saying and I have to end up repeating things a lot. But I have found a lot of people don't listen and or seem to not care in what is said.

People also say they I dont talk a lot and are too quiet. I just usually never have a lot to say unless its something I like or feel the need to say. People that I dont know well confuse me lol.