What assumptions do NTs make about you that you HATE?!

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Have you ever met anyone who after admitting your autistic implies something crude like "You mean ret*d?" or "Oh, so your like Rainman."?

Share it with me, and tell us all about it.javascript:emoticon(':D')

1. So, you can't love... (also b/c I'm asexual) (':ncool:')
2. So, you hit/beat yourself (the intelligent ones will say "self-mutilate")
3. That I can understand/relate to every other person with an ASD

Asking an Aspie if they hit themselves is like asking an NT if they wet their bed at night.

Even if its true, do you REALLY think we want to discuss it?!

When they assume I'll know all about their autistic children, and be able to interpret all their behavior for them, and understand everything they ever do. Even though I've never met the kid. I mean yeah sometimes I'll know something of use, just because of knowing about autism, and sometimes I'll know that their predictions aren't absolute (like when they say "I know my child will never ever..." and the child is like... three years old, give me a break). But I'm not a Universal Translator of Autistic Behavior.

One really creepy one referred to me once in that regard as a "Rosetta stone". No... just... no.

When they automatically assume based on some superficial trait, that I'll either be exactly the same as, or totally different than, some other person.

When they try to make me seem like an exception among autistic people, for (sometimes) being able to do things that... most autistic people can do.

"Being Autistic is no excuse to be rude". (Um...no, it means I have no CLUE when I AM being rude, because I don't get the concept of politeness.)
"My cousin has Autism and he's not rude." (Maybe you interpret assertiveness differently when it comes to people who own vaginas?)
"You speak quite intelligently. Are you sure you have Autism?" (You got me!)
"Are you, like, REEALLY socially awkward?" (Yeah...kinda like right now....)

I remember a story I heard in a Class called "Critical Thinking".

There was a man who was invited to your house for dinner. He constantly burped after every bite of your meal. You think he is horribly rude but accept his offer to eat dinner at his house.

You notice right off the bat that his family members have the same habit. His wife and his kids all burp right after each bite of the Turkey, and no one pays it any heed. The man comments after word that even if the Turkey was slightly burnt, it was no excuse to be RUDE.

What happened? basically your rude to him if you don't burp out loud.

And that is why I think Aspies are never rude. Rude is relative.

I have an unread message I suspect will be filled with things to put in this thread. The only question is, I guess, whether I want to bother to read it.

I'd like either a copy or a link to this "unread message"

I am talking to you.

The only one I've heard personally is, "You're too nice to have Asperger's." But I don't really tell a lot of people.

You just told everybody! javascript:emoticon(':D')

I dislike when they assume that I must then be single with no children.
They also seem to assume that I cannot have a sense of humor and act surprised when I make a joke or witty comment.

"but you are normal right? you are not gonna stab me with a knife or something?"
i felt so hurt, worst part is it was an amnesty international volunteer

I haven't had anyone respond rudely/meanly when they learn I have high-functioning autism. In fact, they usually are impressed that what they thought autism was, might not be accurate. Probably the thing that caused me the most trouble was before I knew I had it, and people would just call me "weird" and not want me around because they couldn't figure me out, or something. As a teen, girls were afraid of me and guys thought I was Gay.

Charles

people are way too paranoid about that sort of thing.