aspies don't do humour

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I do have a sense of humour, but I'm not into jokes. I mean, like "Why did the chicken cross the road?". They're just not amusing to me.
I like more things that are either related to the situation at hand or the sort of things that emerge if you're with friends (=my brother), "inside jokes".
As in, for example, right now there's this weird one about Fenris from Dragon Age 2 eating everything, like bottles and stuff. So my brother went, as if there had actually been anything even remotely like it in game, that "I think some of Fenris' comments are just so stupidly exaggerated" and I went "Yes, like 'I want to eat the whole world!' It's just ridiculous." Yes, it doesn't make sense, but it's hilarious to us
Also, sometimes some tv shows are funny. Mostly not, though.

Of course I can do humor. Getting humor drunk first is the tricky part.

I also really dislike when I hear people go "I work with autistic people, so I know all about autism." Usually, they know very little. They know only what they read into autistic people's behavior. Even many of the supposedly great "experts" on autism are the exact same way. They can't see us as we are, only as the way they interpret our behavior. Then whatever they read into us, is passed on as the received wisdom about what autism is and what autistic people are like. And so much of it is BS that it's truly astonishing.

And this isn't just because "they see people who are more severe". Honestly? The "people who are more severe" are often some of the biggest victims of the mentality that "I read into what autistic people do, therefore I understand autism." Most people who are put into that category are nothing like the stereotypes, many being far less like the stereotypes than the supposedly "mild" people are. (There are reasons for this, but I don't currently have the language skills to explain why that happens.)

Sarcasm is 50/50 with me. If the tone of voice changes, I know it's sarcasm, but people at work wont change their voice tone, and thus it goes over my head, I just have a blank look on my face trying to decipher if they where joking or not.

I think I do humour pretty well.

I have a good sense of humor. I make myself laugh all the time.
Certain people get my humor, but others just give me a blank look when I say something that's supposed to be funny. I suspect the stereotype is due to the fact that we make connections differently than other people, so they (at least some) don't get it and think we don't get humor.

I'm a sarcastic bastard. I hate sarcasm but I use it by reflex. Some of my humour everyone gets but some of it just offends people. For example my brothers girlfriend asked me why I'm so obsessed with those forensics shows so I told her "I'm planning on becoming a serial killing rapist so I need to educate myself on how the forensics detectives investigate the crime scenes". I thought that was real funny but nobody else seemed to. This rarely happens with people that know me though so I think its just when people don't know me they can't tell whether I'm joking or not. I never had trouble learning metaphors either but learning the word metaphor itself took me years. I convert all words to images but metaphor is a tricky one to represent with an image. Had mad trouble learning the words analogy, abstract, arbitrary too for some reason. I often need practical examples of a word in order to memorise what it is, I can't just memorise the definition in words.

"It's not that funny."
"That's a joke."

10 years of my sister policing my humor

The vast majority of jokes are basically laughing about someone falling down... in one way or another. Nietzsche put it best in his curt aphorism: A joke is an epitaph on the death of a feeling.