Board index › General Discussion › General Autism Discussion

Have you been accused of interrupting a lot?

Page 3 of 3 [ 37 posts ]  Go to page Previous  1, 2, 3

Previous topic | Next topic

conundrum
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 25 May 2010
Age: 45
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,922
Location: third rock from one of many suns

29 Mar 2011, 8:00 pm

Phillip_J_Fry wrote:
DonDud wrote:
And then, after the conversation has moved on, if I thought of something that I really wanted to say but managed to not interrupt, I'm debating to myself whether this thought I spent the time to work out in my head is worth mentioning after the moment has passed, or if I should just let it die.


I know a lot of social cues are highly subjective and vary from situation to situation, but this one isn't. Don't try to go back and shoehorn a point into a conversation that has ended. I have done this numerous times, and it NEVER works, and it always blows up in your face. Even if you are 100% right, and they are 110% wrong, you will be the one to come off looking stupid, trust me on this.
I don't mean to lecture you or anything (and I hope this doesn't come across as such), but what few social skills I possess I have come by at great personal cost, and I feel it would be wrong for me not to share them with other Aspies.


Same here--this has been my experience too. It's frustrating, but better to just let it go.


_________________
The existence of the leader who is wise
is barely known to those he leads.
He acts without unnecessary speech,
so that the people say,
'It happened of its own accord.' -Tao Te Ching, Verse 17


Tequila
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 25 Feb 2006
Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 28,897
Location: Lancashire, UK

29 Mar 2011, 8:51 pm

Extremely frequently, especially in conversations with more than one person. It bugs me no end. So often I think it would actually be more beneficial if I didn't say anything.



Phillip_J_Fry
Tufted Titmouse
Tufted Titmouse

User avatar

Joined: 20 Jul 2010
Age: 47
Gender: Male
Posts: 38

29 Mar 2011, 9:11 pm

Tequila wrote:
Extremely frequently, especially in conversations with more than one person. It bugs me no end. So often I think it would actually be more beneficial if I didn't say anything.


To whom are you replying?

PS- love your avatar!



SammichEater
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 6 Mar 2011
Age: 30
Gender: Male
Posts: 3,903

29 Mar 2011, 9:56 pm

I don't ever interrupt anyone. Whenever I get into an argument I don't know why but I always have a hard time disagreeing with people. Even when people have no reasoning behind their statements at all I do not have the ability to assess that while I'm trying to continue listening to the conversation. I always need time to come up with a rebuttal, and if I don't have one, I end up just agreeing with them. Perhaps this is why I never really got bullied at school, because I never disagree with anyone.



Tequila
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 25 Feb 2006
Age: 36
Gender: Male
Posts: 28,897
Location: Lancashire, UK

29 Mar 2011, 10:04 pm

Phillip_J_Fry wrote:
To whom are you replying?


To the thread question.

As for my avatar; thanks! I pinched it from Wikipedia and made a few alterations (including removing the Isle of Man which isn't in the UK and therefore shouldn't feature on the map).