Does anyone forgive easily?

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I don't forgive and I certainly don't forget, never have and never will. Just a nasty person I suppose, which most people end up thinking anyway when I won't agree with them to keep the peace, so why give them false hope to begin with.

Tiffinity.

I forgive easily.

I find it easy to forgive other people's mistakes and/or accidents. I once had a motorcyclist cross over onto my side of the road on a sharp curve and force me to drive off into the grass (it was a dirt road with no shoulder). If I hadn't driven off the road the motorcyclist would have been dead. I also could have been in grave danger if there hadn't been a safe place to go off into. There was no damage or anything but when the guy came over to my window it seemed like he was expecting me to be enraged at him. Instead I just felt pity for him and had nothing much to say in response to his apology. Afterwards I was feeling almost as if I SHOULD have been angrier, or at least tried to get the person's license to report.

Like others here though, I find it EXTREMELY difficult, if not impossible, to forgive intentional harm done to me by an unapologetic party. In that case I will hold a grudge forever. I also have a problem in that I've always been an extreme stickler for fair treatment and just mindedness and this puts me at odds with a lot of people. I really have a problem understanding people who excuse unfair treatment of others. The same goes for sadists and bullies. I will never understand or forgive these kinds of people.

I don't forgive easily and I don't forget. I can hold a grudge against someone for a long time if they do something bad to me and don't make up for it or genuinely apologize.

My husband and I just got home from a date. On the way we discussed 'forgiveness'. It is coming to my attention I have trouble being 'mad' at anyone. Also, I easily forget 'time'. If it didn't happen today, it could have easily happened 10 years ago. So far as he is concerned, he will not 'cut' someone off. Should they speak with him, he will remain polite. That being said, he will also never forget and therefore, never put his trust in them...ever. My brain just doesn't appear to have that emotion. Or memory for it. Maybe just my 'wiring'!

Does anyone know if there is a physical part of the brain which handles 'forgiveness'?

It sometimes takes me a while to forgive, and many scars just do not heal - I almost never forget. If someone upsets me, I tend to avoid them, but do not seek revenge or "burn bridges"

[quote="Babs01"
I find this slightly insulting.[/quote]

It was not my intention to insult anyone...which part did you find inaccurate? Perhaps I have written in incorrectly. It wouldn't be the first time I try to say something and have it come out backward from what I really wanted to say.[/quote]

I realize you didn't mean to insult. But you basically called people who don't forgive cowards and liken their emotional issues as bags of garbage.

My biggest problem is that I forgive too much on the spot because I'm incredibly slow to realize when something really hurts or maybe deep down I know I've been offended in some way but thanks to AS I have no way of expressing it on the spot. Forgiveness is usually a quick way to duck out of that kind of confrontation for me.

All throughout school I let a lot of people go for things should've been mad at them on the spot for because I was too slow to react and tell theme that. Alot of severe situations take years for me to realize that I've been hurt and now it's too late to even addressed that to them because they would be like "that happened years ago, let it go". If this wasn't the case I would be more forgiving. I just wished that I had a better ability to express my anger at people when they offend me right away. It comes pretty easy for my classmates to inform me right away when I piss them off.