Do people not understand you when you talk?

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i often talk and people cant understand me.

I dont mean to sound muddled, or mumbly.

My dad used to say quit mumbling all the time, but I dont mean to and even when I try to talk as best I can many people cannot understand me and I have to repeat myself 3 or 4 times. It's very frustrating and probably frustrating for the people I am talking to.

People frequently do not understand me, though it is not because I mumble. My problem is that often the way I put words together... they do not make sense to people. I say things wrong or think I am saying one thing but it comes out wrong... like the translator from brain to mouth is broken... or everyone else just speaks a different language and I did not know about it.

I hate the whole repeating thing also. It is frustrating and I agree, it is likely frustrating to others as well. Not so fun. Talking is sooooooo overrated.

What its in my head its right but when it comes out my mouth it becomes wrong.
Anyone else get that?

I have to repeat myself more than once sometimes, but I think that may be me speaking too quietly.

All the time. I'm either talking to quietly or I'm talking too quickly, because I want to get the conversation overwith.

Sometimes my words will come out wrong. Like a sentence in the wrong sequence or I might say a word, or words, in a weird way, I guess. think sometimes those two things get mixed together at the same time. Maybe the sentence doesn't make sense and when that happens people say, "what did you say?".

Or I'm trying to say something and it just keeps coming out in an awkward or stilted non-fluid way.

Sometimes the full word won't come out of my mouth and I stutter.

It can feel like my tongue doesn't work or something. Other times it feels like my brain is little frustrating.

Sometimes I will use the wrong word for something in particular, but I see it or know it in my head, and do that a couple times.

Or I can't think of the word for something common and need to describe what I see or know it is.

I'm not sure if this happens more when I am nervous but I know these things can happen when I'm nervous or not.

I;m not sure if these things happen a lot or not. Someone who knows me has told I just come across as something with a stuttering problem.

I don't know how many times I've tried to explain something and then somebody summarizes what I said in a completely different way, making all sorts of assumptions that are wrong. Mostly this only happens when talking about emotional stuff or opinions.

Example:
I say "I hate Microsoft, they're such a**holes!"
and then I'm asked "Why do you hate Bill Gates, at least he does good with his money?"
Seriously...

I tend to be prone to taking so long to get the actual point in regards to what I am saying that people usually give up when it comes trying to understand what I am talking about lol. I can also sometimes mix my words up if I am nervous or forget what I am saying half way through and have to start again, pause so I can pick up my own train of thought or say um a lot whilst I wait for my brain to give me a word I am trying to think of.

All of those can sometimes make it difficult for me to communicate with people.

On occasion I have been known to speak so quietly people could not hear me but usually my voice is a little on the loud side. When I was young I also spoke so quickly that people couldn't always keep up.

Yeah I mumble.

People sometimes say they have trouble understanding me because i talk to fast.

I seem to run into this issue almost constantly. I’ve developed the habit of speaking very quietly, especially when around many people (which the issue is amplified by the fact that there’s a greater volume of noise floating around). I have a dreadful fear of being wrong; really not a good fear to have as I’ve come to realize it hampers potential social and intellectual growth. This fear is only present in social situations where the learning would come about via another person’s correction; I take no issue with being wrong and exploring alternatives on my own. This is probably due to a vast ocean that has accumulated from people throwing cold water in my face at different times.

So, I’ve developed the habit of speaking quietly as a defense against potential assaults on what I say, especially when the attack could come from many fronts. I know that I should not bind my esteem to ideas I put forth and should rather just pursue the idea for the sake of an ideal. This would be fine, however I have noticed, and increasingly so with age and greater complexity, that when I attempt to put words to a thought the meaning is usually lost because I don’t establish a context to what it is that I say. So, when I say something I will have in mind a set of premises surrounding an idea and will make a statement that is sort a convergence of these premises without actually providing a large set of the information that’s in my mind. Basically I make an attempt at providing a sound bit version of what’s going on in my mind and often miss the mark. I probably wouldn’t be as opposed to voicing my thoughts if i were actually putting forward the thought I was intending to in a clear and concise manner. It’s either this or long winded rambling of different structural components of my idea and hoping that the connections are evident.

I also find myself saying the wrong thing all together, like ill replay back what I said in my head attempting to look at it while disregarding the priorly mention premises I have in mind, only to realize I’ve used wrong words or am missing words completely; but oh well such is my life. To be honest, I’m sure this doesn’t even make a whole lot of sense.

I tend to talk loud and fast so this happens.