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I was just sitting here, and realized something --- I may already be diagnosed with AS. I recently just turned thirteen, so about 6 years ago (In first grade), I recall being taken to an odd building, downtown, and went into some waiting room, then my Parents, my twin brother, and I had went into a room with a man who appeared to be a psychologist started saying things in which I am unable to recall clearly, although I do remember my parents crying, and stating " It may have been bad parenting ", then I said " There is nothing wrong with your parenting, then the psychologist said "does he always think he knows the anwer?", then they removed me into a room with toys, and a television. I was in there for at least 4 hours, when some random women (dressed in no uniform, but instead normal clothes) walked in and tried to ask me random questions, and was asking me about things I liked to do. then I went home and never really thought of this ordeal until now, 6 years in the future. Does anyone else think that this was them diagnosing me with AS? Could my parents have kept this a secret for so long?

Your parents could have wanted to keep it from you in order to protect you. Or they could be trying to deny it themselves. All I know is, the first thing I'm doing once I get my own insurance is pulling up my medical records to see if I've been diagnosed, since I've had "treatment" (my mom brought me to a social skills group for years), but neither of my parents have mentioned anything about an ASD, and my mom has been fishing around for other diagnoses for me, so I think she's just trying to prevent me from finding out in the hopes that the problem will go away somehow.

Since there's no evidence that autism goes away when you decide not to tell someone (s)he's autistic, I find the very idea of trying to hide it or bury it under wrong diagnoses laughable. Dysgraphia (diagnosed as motor apraxia =_=;;) does not explain my language delays. NVLD does not explain my echolaia. ADHD does not explain my stimming, my extreme sensitivity to sound, or my calculating approach to conversation. So why did my mom have me tested for all those things, among others (those are just the ones for which I received diagnoses), when autism fits so much better? My only conclusion is that some NTs are afraid of autism, that they are afraid we function on an entirely different level that sets us apart and makes us incomprehensible.

And so I dread the day I have to "come out" to my mother as an Aspie.

Yeah, I remember a few years ago, my mom telling me that she "thought" I had it when she was mad, for all I know my mother could want me to think that I am normal, which is clearly untrue .

If I were you, I wouldn't worry about it. If she really does think you're better off not knowing and that's why she's not telling you, at least it's because she cares about you, right?

I don't think my mom ever wanted me to think I was normal, but she has expressed a desire for me to be normal. But lately she's coming around to my way of thinking. :]

I could accept that she doesn't want to tell me to hurt me, if she didn't try to get me to act like everyone else.

I had a thought like that too. Although I don't remember anything, it is possible that my mom has known about my AS for a long time and just hasn't told me until last month. After all, she always told me that my brain is "wired differently" and all that other stuff. When she did tell me about AS she brought it up in a very positive way, and did not make it sound like a bad thing, so I don't think she would hide it from me for that reason, but she might have another reason to.

Firstly, when I was in elementary school I wouldn't have understood what it meant to have AS, and knowing about it probably would have scared me. In addition, when I was younger I probably would have used it as an excuse like I've seen other people do with their problems. I was forced to learn social skills and to be flexible without any extra consideration. If I had an excuse not to try as hard, I would have used it. While I wish I had known earlier, I'm glad I didn't know until now.

It's possible she's trying to get you to act like everyone else to help you make more friends. Kids are mean to people who are different.

I just want to know if this was a diagnosis or not, as this memory confuses me all so much.