bumble wrote:
Well I use facial expressions, actually my facial expressions and body language can be quite exaggerated at times (I borrowed some of it from lee evans especially when it comes to my sense of humour lol) so I can tend to become a bit over animated. I have people comment on how over animated I can be at times. However there are also times where they seem to misjudge the mood that I am in. In my teens people used to keep telling me to cheer up when I was in a perfectly good mood. I actually went home to my mum and said "what am I supposed to do, walk around grinning like a cheshire cat all day?". When I am upset they think I am angry and so on. I always thought that they were just abysmal at reading someone's mood but now I am wondering if I am not giving out the right signals in some ways. Whilst I can read basic emotions via facial expressions (happy, sad, disgust and so on) I don't read complex or subtle ones accurately. Neither can I read body language so I am not always aware of what signal my body language is giving out exactly unless its using a hand gesture etc.
It has been an irritation to me since I was a child as I would get annoyed and frustrated because people would constantly misjudge my mood and as a result misjudge me. I often wonder if that's why my dr keeps thinking I am depressed when I am actually not feeling depressed or sad at all...
I do make an effort to grin at people...but its mechanical. Smiling only comes naturally when I am very very excited or I find something funny. At other times I can be in a very good mood but I don't walk around grinning at myself lol.
This is very similar to my experience. If I'm not "actively" making an expression, people accuse me of being in a bad mood, being upset, etc. Likewise, people suck at reading how I'm feeling in general. Which, as you suggested, is probably more of a reflection that my face is difficult to read or that I'm giving off signals unintentionally.
When I am actively making an expression, though, people see me as being very animated. I've had people tell me that I'm like a cartoon character. Sometimes I over-exaggerate emotions for comedic effect. It seems to work.
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