What do you think about telling others you're an aspie?

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I don't have many people to talk about it with, really. My parents, my supervisor at work, my one friend. As I'm thirty-seven years old, and I've known these people for a long time, I think it was rather anti-climactic for them to hear it. My mother nodded and said, "Really. Well, that does make sense." Everyone else said, "Asperger's? What's that?" I found it difficult to explain (which is typical for me), but I managed. More or less.

Sharing it with my supervisor has turned out to be a positive thing. He understands that I can get "overloaded" and have to step out for a couple of minutes sometimes. Clear my mind, get away from the noise and disorder. He realizes I'm not being lazy, that I just need a minute to get it together. And he lets me off early on Wednesdays so I can see my therapist.

So good things can come from sharing. However, I'm not ready to wear an "Aspie" t-shirt and deal with all the questions it will draw from strangers.

I worried for ages about telling people, and decided to only say anything to those who really needed to know, or asked me directly (which has never happened).
In a way, I'm lucky because I'm a teacher, and so the 2 people at work I told (boss and person I work with all the time) already know about autism/AS so there was no problem with them misunderstanding, and it's made my life so much easier at work.
The only other person who knows is a good friend who's also a teacher who works with AS children, so she knows loads, and said "yeah, I thought so" when I told her!
But I won't be telling anyone else. They don't need to know, and I've gone 25 years with people just thinking I'm a bit weird/reserved/strange- I don't care anymore!

I usually don't bring it up, although my family knows (and that's okay). I just don't talk about it a lot because it means telling everyone the same story over and over, and I get the pity thing from the misinformed ones.

Oooh, I told a coworker once when she asked me. I honestly answered that I have Asperger's, and she said, "No you don't!" Hi, I've grown up with this. I've just trained myself a little.

I don't tell anyone, but then I never see the point with pushing labels about me on other people. Like, I never tell someone "I'm male" or "I'm female." If I come across as male to them then fine by me, same with if I come acorss as female. Same with I'll rarely say "I'm queer" to people - if they pick up on the slightly-eccentric orientation, fine, they can make of that what they will.
Most people pick up on the fact there's something a little odd about me, but I let them make what they will of that, and don't inform them of what their impressions should be. Strangely, people have said things like "that is such a typical autistic response" to me when I never said anything. I guess I (usually) let people draw their own conclusions instead of making statements about what I am or am not.

I recently told my boss. Despite practicing what I wanted to say I didn't get to explain anything at all. I mean, it went fine. I'm sure he knows nothing of autism, but he has been nice to me (I think just seeing how stressed I was was enough for that). But I really did want a chance to explain that I bring many benefits to the workplace, as well as needing a couple of adjustments.