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Last week, I was put on a new med for obsessive thoughts about women and sex (for those of you who aren't familiar with the situation...it goes beyond any normal guy interest in women or sex...where it's constant, involuntarily 24/7 (literally) thoughts about women's bodies and sex.)

Anyway, I seemed to have an adverse reaction to it...was even more horny two nights ago and was begging hundreds of women for sex on dating sites...I got a headache from it and went to sleep. The next day, I got in a verbal fight with my brother and walked to the emergency room of the local hospital and checked myself in.

Didn't help that the a few of the nurses there were playboy quality, but that's beside the point. The people at the front asked if I wanted to harm or kill myself or others, and I said no...that I felt really depressed and hopeless, but that I wasn't a threat to myself or others.

So then I had to wait hours upon hours sitting down with the legit lunatics who are talking about "what's real and fake and what isn't...life is a game" and all sorts of crazy sh*t. So to speed things up, my mom called the head nurse of the hospital and bumped up so the doctor could see me and discharge me...otherwise I might still be there.

The other thing I found interesting is that some of the orderlies and nurses and security guards would make comments like "I need a drink after work" (due to some of the patients acting up.) It made me think "Well what do you expect when you get a job in the ER of a hospital?" Aren't nurses in the business to care?

And the guy that checked me in, when my mom and I were trying to speed things up (before she called the head nurse) the guy who checked me in barefaced lied and told the other doctors "I wanted to end it all." I made it specifically clear to him that I had suicidal feelings due to the lingering obsessive thoughts, but that I didn't want to die.

Anyway...for the older guys...does this sexual obsession get any better at a later age? Do I have anything to look forward to? If it were up to "the real me" not the obsessed or hormonal me, I'd either not care whatsoever about women as sex objects, or I'd have a nice girlfriend.

I hardly ever think about women. I'm not sure you could compare your experience to anyone else's though, particularly if obsessive compulsion is a problem.

But for heterosexual man with strong interest in women and sex in general. I mean do I have anything to look forward to or does sex appetite stay the same regardless of age?

It'll get better and your thoughts & perceptions about sex will become more mature as you get older.

I think you're obsessing over sex because right now you're not getting any. Something in you thinks that the harder you push for it, the more likely it is you're going to get it, while actually the opposite is the case. Once you do find a suitable partner your obsessive thoughts will almost immediately stop.

As far as I've read about sex drive is that it becomes relatively less with age and when you get children - it has all to do with hormones. On the other side you could have an habitual addiction because you give in to drive on a regular base, be it by attention to it or by accomplishing it.

I have a strong sex drive too and when stimulated with attractive womenly shapes I get aroused very easily.
'spanking the monkey', 'taking a cold shower' or sport 'til exhaustion might help for a while, but then it's back to square one.

It may be very natural for a man to have these feelings, although pretty troubling if your balls are driving you nuts (might there be a connection to this unintended pun? ).

That sounds more like pure OCD rather than Autistic obsession. Most anti-depressants and mood stabilizers will kill sex drive in days.

I think the significant thing here is that it's an OCD symptom and not actual natural sex drive. You should be treating the OCD primarily.

I guess I'll have to wait until I have sex until I know how much is a sex obsession and how much is just a mind obsession. I know from foreplay (everything including oral) that while I liked it, the fantasy is a lot better than the reality. Maybe I just have a hyperactive imagination. I dream a lot of just naked woman walking around...not even necessarily sex. So maybe I'm just some weird voyeur that's obsessed with beauty (or what I consider beauty.)

I know that the whole "blue balls" thing I don't get. And also, when I do masturbate, it doesn't seem to help. 2 minutes later, I'm obsessed again.

What pisses me off is that there really are bigger problems in the world. I'm not a religious guy, but I believe in a higher power, that there was a creator and we didn't get here just by some random chance...and I can understand why a lot of things in my life have went down the way they did and made me appreciate things even more....but I can't understand for the life of me what place a reluctant women/sex obsession/sex drive whatever it is has in a life of a quiet homebody who never wants to get married or have kids.

It brings out the worst in me...makes me look at attractive women (or what I consider attractive) like a mad man that just got out of jail and hasn't seen a woman in years (despite "the real me" thinking "why am I doing this?") and it makes a guy rate women on a 10 scale based on physical appearance. Once again, this is typical stuff for a guy, especially a guy my age...but not to the degree...and if it were up to me...I'd see women, 24/7, all the time, as human beings with goals and aspirations, not just naked bodies to admire. But apparently that's too much to ask.

As debated many times, complete free will is an illusion. But you can steer it so that you aren't bothered by it that much.

Why don't you just fulfill the drive atleast once? Go to the ladies of pleasure and get the experience.

That kind of thing is illegal where I live.

I am tempted though to just go completely anti-society, anti-hormones and find a nice, modest, average, and willing girl to sleep with...that way, I'm having sex, but with someone I like, not for the reasons biology wants me to.

just cuz its illegal doesn't mean u can't do it

All of this would be okay in moderation...at brief times over the past couple years I've felt it in moderation...but it doesn't last long at all.

It would be like thinking about literally anything at all, pick a subject, 99 percent of the day, and then going to sleep and dreaming about it.

I know that if I had a lower sex drive/no sex drive I'd still find women attractive...but I know because of the obsession/excessive sex drive...that I've lost control over who exactly is the real me when it comes to this stuff.

I also know that hormones/biology has absolutely no idea who's good for someone and who isn't...it just makes you notice the woman with the hottest body.

My aim I guess is to meet somewhere in the middle...find a nice, cute girl that I'd like sex or no sex...instead of noticing women that would be bad for me anyway even if they liked me back.

In the opinions of the people here, especially males with experience, could a lot of this be solved with a roll in the lay or two or is this indicative of a bigger issue?

To me it seems like the latter...because it isn't so much an obsession with penetration...it's an obsession with sexy women (what I consider sexy) tits, and ass and the like. Most of my daydreaming/fantasies/dreams at night involve more so naked women and touching naked women more so than actual penetration.

So the idea that I'm some kind of voyeuristic fetishist bugs me...because that's a problem that won't go away.

Maybe have a talk with a mental healthcare worker? social worker, psychiatrist, GP, etc. ?

I have a psychiatrist...who is going to recommend a talking therapist for me and I'm all for that. I'm just wondering how much talk therapy could actually do.