Why are aspie guys so "quiet" online?

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I have aspie friends on facebook and MSN and I've noticed that on facebook I somehow connect well with aspie girls. Most of my conversations on facebook with aspies are with females. Now, that may not mean that aspie guys are quiet or anything, in fact, I do see facebook statuses of aspie guys but I'm probably not interested in commenting on it a lot of the times.

However, on MSN, whenever I start a conversation with an aspie guy, there seems to be almost no response and the conversations don't go far. They seem to be busy or something (even though their status is "available"). Aspie females on the other hand, I have long conversations with one of them and some others are willing to carry on the conversation.

Its weird sometimes I feel like an aspie female when I'm online lol.

Guys tend to be less verbose then women, and being an Aspie male tends to make this behavior more pronounced.

I'm usually quiet in real life, but not online. Although, even on the internet, I still have no idea how to answer the question "How are you?" In a text chat, I would be more likely to start an argument on why it's stupid to ask, whereas in real life I would say something like "I don't know".

I don't know becuase I'm not a guy.

I don't know if it has anything to do with the guys you talk to, but I'm quieter online than in real life because, online, I have time to realize that what I was typing didn't need to be said, so I end up saying little to nothing at all. In the outside world, I chatter like a madman and annoy everyone

I don't know what to talk about most of the time. Lot of people seem to blame it on my AS but others don't respond either or they take too long to reply or they don't keep the IM conversation going because they don't know what talk about either I assume so it can't be AS.

For the same reasons I'm quiet in real life. I never know what kind of conversations to start nor contribute.

A good number of times however I try to write a reply but my mind gets lost and can never figure out how to finish the post so I eventually gave up, distraction I guess.

I am generally very quiet in person, and even here on these boards I do more reading than contributing. (Often, someone else has already expressed my thoughts on a topic, so I don't bother.) I've never been the type of Aspie who talks to people about his special interests or anything else. I try to be as inconspicuous as possible when I'm among people I'm not familiar with.

In my experience, the notion that women are more verbose than men is simply not true. Anyone who believes that has never spent time in a barber shop, garage, or any "guy" place.

I'm a woman but I rarely chat with anyone online. It's too much like real life with the immediateness that is required. Plus some people play those mind games if you are on messenger or something with them. Like they make you wait around for their answer or they are chatting with like 12 people & forgot about you. That's why I prefer message boards or private messages (like on Facebook).

I don't know, I guess for the same reason I'm quiet in real life.

Same reason I am so quiet IRL. I don't have anything interesting to say. More appropriately, I don't have anything a 'typical' person would find interesting to say.

Holding - or substantiating - an engaging conversation is very difficult for me.