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In response to the above vid, here are the Facebook Terms of service:

http://www.facebook.com/terms.php?ref=pf

Can anyone that speaks legalese tell us if there is anything to be concerned about?

Well, the thing was, even though I liked his friends, if I go out with a group, I don't talk at all. I can't help it. Effort is not the issue. So they'd think that I didn't like them or that I thought I was too good for them. So I preferred to just stay at home and do my own thing while he went out with them, thus avoiding the whole torment. This apparently led to people assuming something was wrong between us or that I was a psycho gold digger or something who didn't really care about him. He just came to the point where he accepted that that's how I was and it didn't matter what other people thought. There were a couple people he quit hanging around with because of it, but most just shrugged it off. So... I didn't really do anything.

@Claradoon: yes, he definitely has "peer pressure" issues. Like me, he didn't have that many friends growing up and doesn't want to lose the ones he has now.

@pensieve: some can be, or seem like, "jerks." Many just do not understand AS--one person actually said that I don't really have it, am just "making excuses" and need to "grow up." (Granted, she also has a major crush on my bf, who has been avoiding her.)

@Zen: what you described sounds very much like my situation, except I don't live with him--yet. I don't know if things will improve in this area if we do move in together.

What to do, what to do?

Anyone mind if I show him this thread, or maybe just excerpts from it (copy/pasted with no names)?

I was considering just a symbol--either my current WP avatar or an image that is meaningful. Is just a first name and last initial acceptable?

Thanks everyone, for all of your help. If anyone still wants to add something, please do--I'll take all the advice I can get.

I still don't why everyone who is so anti-facebook? It seems strange to me, maybe I'll start a separate thread about it.

Reasons why I don't have a facebook:

1. People I met in my past life might look me up and send me bullying emails.
2. I don't like it when someone can easily interpret my thoughts or use my thoughts against me.
3. I hate my last name.
4. If I don't have a facebook, I can hide from society easily.
5. There are a lot of Autism-racist people out there that call you "mentally ret*d" because they think your that dumb. They also think that Autistics are too dumb that they can't have gfs or bfs.
6. I don't want family looking me up on facebook reading into my life.
7. I heard that some police look up your facebook posts when doing background checks.
8. I heard that Job employers look you up via facebook to see where you are when your not working and you should be. (or something similar to this)
9. Criminals trying to lure you out of your home so they can do SOMETHING bad to you.
10. Bad publicity~such as: Anthony Wiener showing his wiener on facebook.

^I agree with this but I really don't like too much of my personal information to be put on the web. Once its on there, it will never go away.

Then again, if you talk to someone about something IRL, then there is a possibility they might never forget the conversation you had but I think there is more chance that the talk you had IRL vs on the computer will fade away.

Seconded. Besides, there is (usually) no record of a talk IRL.

I once got a Facebook account because people kept buggering me for it. I barely use it, but it's an easy way for me to keep photo albums of my vacations. Everything's set to extreme privacy, I don't accept people whom I don't know as friends and you can't recognise me from my profile picture. There are multiple people with the same name as I have and about all you'd get from my photos (even if you could see them, which you can't) is that I like landscapes and animals and that I don't photograph people. I also use FB to send happy birthdays to people I used to know.

I've often been afraid that people from my past might hunt me down using FB, but apparently all these precautions were enough.

I've got a Facebook account but its locked on maximum security settings and I only add people after a rigorous check. I block people immediately if they seem suspicious. I blocked my mum from Facebook too but my dad probably doesn't even know what Facebook is.

Just one note about facebook & privacy:

You can lock down your profile and make full use of the limited privacy features. This won't help you though. It takes just one facebook-friend to undo everything. For example: A 'friend' can upload a picture of you and tag you in it. Even if you don't accept the tag, the facial recognition system will now have your face. And, of course, facebook is known to change its privacy policy often and rigorously.

I suggest you, your boyfriend and his friends use http://joindiaspora.com/

Tagging is a rather nasty way of circumventing the privacy settings, yes. But I'm not sure that matters: that gives nobody access to you beyond those photos. And, if I may add, that kind of thing gets out regardless of whether or not you're on Facebook (you can tag people who aren't on FB).

I personally don't care because I don't let anyone take photos of me that I wouldn't want online.

I was able to hook up with friends I haven't seen for 20 years. It brought back some great memories for me.

It would seem I'm a facebook Luddite

I am one of those in the majority here. I actually really like facebook. I am actually a really social person, but I'm very bad at it in person until I really know someone. Facebook has given me the chance to meet new people and connect with old friends without the awkward in person freak out. In a person to person interaction, you are expected to respond immediately. On facebook, I have time to sit back and decide if I should really say what I am planning to say.

If you are worried about privacy, don't use your real name or post personal photos. Don't say anything you wouldn't want a potential employer to see. It is not for everyone though. It is all about your comfort level.

Grrr, I meant not in the majority!

You're not actually allowed to use a pseudonym. It's in the terms of service.