Dislike meeting New People?

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Im 14 and my mom is always trying to get me to meet new poeple with church or in the neighbor hood and honstly I really dont like it.
Meeting people my own age and trying to make convortian with them isnt fun for me. It takes so much effort to talk to these new people. I want to get to know them and have friends but every time Im around some one my age I feel nervous and uncomfterable. I never know what to say to them. Some times I will watch NTs and the way they are with each other, they are out going and always talking and the subject changes so fast. It seems so esay for them. I wish it was that esay for me. Any one else not like meeting new people or being around people there own age??

I like the idea of meeting new people but not actually meeting new people.
Keep in mind that at 14 most people are awkward and what looks easy on the outside might not be on the inside.

I feel you. I always get nervous whenever I have to meet new people.

^ Seconded.

I don't like meeting directly, but I am allright with it online, but I don't fully trust people online though...

But I'm kind of neurotic nevertheless, on and off line..

Like I've mentioned in a few other posts. I rarely talk. So to avoid talking, I avoid meeting new people.

I love meeting new people, i hate the awkwardness that follows the hello.

I am not good at formulating words, not spontaneous, very forgetful, anxious, not a good speaker, and all of that shows through my body language for an embarrassing display of awkwardness.

I know a girl that craves new friends, but gets super stressed in many social situations. Her family started her on a new social skills program. She will watch and observe people. If she sees someone she finds interesting, she has a little line that she says that says she's autistic, but loves to hang out with people. She has been lucky and has met a few awesome friends. She tags along and leaves when she feels like it. They go hang out at the beach or the park and she will often sit on the grass by herself, but closeby. She may put her ipod in for a short big if she's suffering overload. She loves going places because it's learning for her. She files it away in her brain. She considers herself a master researcher of people. She does quite well on her own most days. But others she does not and has major sensory issues. She can usually tell when she's going downhill and will make an exit. Or her BFF will also notice things and help out. She never, ever goes out without one of her trusty friends by her side.

If you enjoy people, give them a chance. If you assume the worst, that can often put off bad vibes.

I was going to be sarcastic and say that I like meeting new people, but I can't even do that.

And the thing is, I always feel like I'm pressure into meeting new people by my family just so I can be happier. I don't like having a large group of friends...it gets me anxious and stressed out.

I dislike the insane fear and awkwardness of the situation.

I hate meeting new people, and it's not because of that awkward feeling I get. Alot of people I met wanted to change me, or make me who I wasn't.

I think that your parents are wrong to pressure you into this.

I think that they are probably assuming that you are just as sociable as them and that you want to socialise more but are unable to do so. But given that you are an aspie they are possibly wrong. I do enjoy socialising, but don't like to do it as much as the average person.

I'm exactly the same I hate meeting new people only for the pure fact I find it hard work keeping a conversaton going and people tend to think I'm quiet and weird when they first meet me. I tend to avoid social situations as much as i can. I only enjoy being round my close friends and when I'm at the horse yard because I can be around the animals aswell as people (which I prefer animals alot easier to get on with haha)

I thought about this at work today. Maybe your folks are pushing you to meet new people at church and in the neighborhood because it's an opportunity to practice talking to people without worrying so much about bullying or mean people..
I'm pretty awkward when I meet people (and sometimes for weeks or months after) but I've collected a bunch of jokes and stories and news items that I kind of deploy. It's like a performance but people seem more comfortable with me the better I've gotten with it (practice) and I'm more comfortable because I have a stock of general responses to typical small talk. I don't necessarily make friends this way but I also don't wish for death just to escape.

Is still have the same friends I had when I was in elementary for the most part.