I Have The Right To Say No!

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Out of all my siblings, I show the most respect towards my parents. When it's time to go to bed, the others will complain and whine, and I'll go to my room quietly to sleep. When we wake up, it's the same thing. They make it hell for the parents, I make it easy. They make icky faces at food they don't like, I'll suck it up and eat it. I'll clean my room, the other rooms, the gutters, mow all 5 acres of our yard, and every other chore if that's what they ask of me. I ask for only one thing from them. Just one. They can deny me EVERYTHING else, but all I need to be happy, is my Japanese immersion environment (It's an interest/form of comfort that's crucial to my life style) And yet, after all I do, after all my obedience and loyalty, I am not allowed to be upset when that is taken away? I can't be mad when my Japanese studies are suspended? The one thing I work for, and value so much is gone, and they expect me to sit there and just take it? I say no! I'm good and reasonable almost all the time, but when my anchor point, when my reason to be, when my soul is taken from me, I can not be expected to be the good little boy that I want to be.

It's kind of like this:

All my siblings are given many privileges, and work for few, if not none of them.

I work my butt off for just ONE thing, and then don't get it.

Anyway, here's what happened that made me wright this. We're eating dinner, my sister is banging her head on the table, and is texting. The other kids are loud, have their elbows on the table. Everyone is breaking rules and being bad as usual and getting away with it. I'm sitting quietly, being a good little boy, obeying all the rules. I think that after this good behavior (which I display all the time) I've earned the small prize of having Japanese music accompany while I eat. So I slip on my headphones, and listen away. I've earned it right? I'm doing everything else right, so I can deviate a little bit right here, right? No one's really talking to me anyway, and I'm only breaking one little rule here, while obeying the rest, so it's okay, right? NOT TO THEM APPARENTLY. Because my headphones are pulled right off and tossed across the table! really!? Did they forget how good I usually am!? It seems like everyone else gets to be as bratty as they want, but when I try to get away with one tiny little thing that doesn't even hurt anyone, it's oh so wrong! Are they just used to everyone else being bad, and me being (excuse my lack of a better term) almost perfect? Does anyone else see that as unfair, or is it just me?

You broke a rule (and admit you broke a rule) and were punished. It doesn't really matter what your siblings can or can't get away with. It sucks, but there ya go.

Sounds like a pretty typical issue that obviously sucks...

Sounds like discrimination. I would call them out on it like Chronos said.

It's good to know that I'm not the only aspie that seems to go against the stereotype of being a spoiled bratty kid.

You were singled out because you are the good boy. If you break a rule they will take immediate notice, because it isn't something they expect from you. Believe or not your good behaviour DOES get noticed. I'm sorry that they overreacted; but you're the example setter for your siblings. It's not fair and parents can get pretty weird; but look at it in this light, they expect good behaviour from you because you don't typically disappoint them. In a way you should be proud. Out of all the kids they see you as the more mature and dependable. They have come to trust that you will behave at certain level of maturity and it threw them off when you broke a rule. It was probably shock that made them react in such a severe fashion.

Don't worry about it too much. You sound like a good kid and I'm sure things will work out if you bring your concerns to them in a mature and civil manner. If they tell you no, don't blow-up. If they see you handle it like a man, they will respect you for it. Parents just get froggy when their kids defy them. Don't take it too personally, it's hardwired into their DNA.