Obsession inhibited by lack of confidence?

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I don't tend to feel insecure about my writing because my parents and others keep acting impressed by it. But the slightest hint that something is wrong that's not easy to fix (eg the basic principle of the story is unrealistic) and I tend to lose confidence. And if someone unjustly criticizes one of my stories, even knowing the criticism is unjust (eg someone accused me of being a pervert for writing about a disabled child suffering sexual abuse, which makes about as much sense as calling a mystery writer a potential murderer), the unhappy feelings about the conflict tend to taint my reactions to the story and I don't want to write it anymore.

Wow, I thought I was the only one who had this problem!

This has been an issue for me for quite a number of years. My primary 'obsession' is usually some social science field or other, and my main route to exploring this interest is reading the relevant material. But, like many others who've already contributed to this thread, I find myself held back from reading by my fear of failure: 'What if I'm unable to understand or absorb the information? And if I do fail, how much damage will this do to my identity?'

It's a royal pain, really. The inevitable consequence is that my 'obsessions' never properly kick off in the first place...

I'd love to be able to go and play Yu-Gi-Oh with other people in card stores/clubs regularly, but it's just not gonna happen.

I did go to an event once (about five years ago), but it was kinda a nightmare. Everyone knew each other, and most of them were just rude/ignorant to someone "new" like me. I'm alright with numbers, but my counting just fell apart...I was taking ages adding up attack points, etc. Everyone else was acting like pros...I just felt super awkward.

It's something I would like to be able to do regularly, but none of my friends are into it, and I don't really feel able to walk into a new club and just be like "Yeah...I'm new, so let's duel and stuff."

While I wouldn't call it an obsession, I am quite fascinated by 3D modeling. I would absolutely love to create models of my favorite fictional characters and take screenshots of them in various poses, and maybe even recreate scenes from movies/shows with them. I have downloaded Blender, a powerful open-source software designed for 3D modeling, to achieve this.

While I have fiddled around with it, I am too afraid to attempt any actual modeling because I'm worried that I will not be able to achieve the results I want, or that I will get too frustrated with it, or that it will just be a waste of time... I also feel weird being a woman who is into 3D modeling, because the majority of modelers whose work I have seen on the Internet are male.

I get this a lot too. I'm really into filmmaking and it's all I think about. I can write a script and plan a shoot to within an inch of its life, but I can rarely convince people to be in my films or to take them seriously when they do. I really suck at directing because I can never seem to be able to explain what I need people to do. Because of this, I've started writing comic books. It's much easier to work with a single artist via email than a group of bored friends who just want to go home. Writing a comic is a lot like editing a film too.