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Aspies generally reserve judgement until repeating patterns present.

Normal people judge instantly and declare their judgements are right simply because they don't like that person, that person is a threat somehow and/or they can't relate to that person.

Normal people are more superficial because they have been taught to pay attention mostly to superficial cues such as body language (which is sometimes right sometimes not) which they chat amongst their friends about how a couple just aren't going to last long because they are eating their food in silence rather than talking or talk about who is lying based on eye contact and have rigid standards where they absolutely are not wrong with these superficial cues because that is what they were taught to believe.

In the other superficial area such as liking someone based on appearance, this is not reserved for normal people but normal people do often make up their minds quickly about people based on superficial traits which leads to bullying, ignoring and gossip about person who isn't not presenting themselves in the standard "positive" demeanor that they were taught makes a good person. This falls flat when the person is met with a cunning psychopath who has learned how to present themselves anyway they choose and fool those who make instant judgements based off of such standards.

The mere thought of perhaps these superficial social cues aren't always accurate draws out insecurities in normal people as if you are questioning their belief in religion.

That is how normal people are.

I've become aware of this through living life and how awful it feels to be on the other side but it's not like those who respond negatively towards people like me really have the empathy to understand what it must feel like to be me. It's okay, you'll still get pats on the back and labelled empathetic but the truth is, alot of normal people only have empathy for those who are like them which makes this whole empathy topic in psychiatry biased especially since they only focus on those they perceive to not have empathy meanwhile not bringing up the point that your average person really do not relate to others that are not on their same wavelength and cannot put themselves in that person's mind or shoes. So if there are way more of certain personality types and people than other groups then naturally you're going to have more people you can easily empathize with as you have more people like you. It sets up this notion that because there are more people like you that it means you have more empathy when really you just have more people to choose out of a huge group that you won't have to try hard to relate to.

The majority of people in general all have areas of empathy they lack in. That is why life in general throws something your way that puts you in a situation that the person you were less than considerate towards happens. If you still have no empathy for that person afterwards, then you probably didn't really get that it was a lesson anyway or you'd rather just stick to your negative opinions regardless in which that may reveal you might be the self absorbed one.

It's a tough lesson to learn which is not reserved for just a group of people. It's what we're all here for but so many of us aren't aware of that fact and like to think that merely laughing it off or laughing at someone bringing it up will somehow give you immunity.

One thing we ALL share in common. We're all going to die.

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