Anyone did not believe you have asperger?

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I gradaute from college with a 3.6 GPA. I recently went through test at voc-rehab. I score in the 97 percentille in problem solving skills (untimed word problems). My 14 year old nephew has asperger. He has been in the gifted program at school since he was in third grade. However, his mom, a friend of is mom and I knew he was gifted long before he was test. It is too bad more people do not understand asperger and understand many people with asperger are very smart in many was, even if they are not social smart.

My family has reacted very negatively as well I think. Bear in mind that I don't have a diagnosis (I'm not even sure I could qualify for one - I have learned to conceal a lot of the traits). My family first reacted by saying that they thought I was overreacting, and that I most certainly did not have it. That all the symptoms listed on the net and the books did not fit on me, and that everyone has problems to struggle with. My sisters boyfriend, who's one of the people I trust (trusted?) most, replied by calling me hysteric, overreacting, pessimistic about myself, and hinted that I was seeking attention. I'm 23 years old and have only realised for a short time that I'm probably an aspie (or at least have several aspie traits). But that doesn't make such reactions any easier. How the f*** do they know about what's going on in our heads? They can only judge from what they see. But when we learn to conceal some of the things, how can they know anything? I feel really sorry for you. You probably have a much more severe degree than me, but that doesn't make me a stranger to your pain and frustration. It's hard when people won't understand.

Someone told me I didn't even know what autism was.

Seriously...

I've had numerous people tell me that they were very surprised to hear that I have an AS dx. Mainly because I don't present as your typical, media-presented version of a person with AS. I don't have repetitive body movements, I'm sociable and can hold conversations [instead of sitting in the corner staring at people], and I'm generally quite functional.

A nurse in the hospital I was staying at tried to have some sarcastic jabs at me one day. She thought I wouldn't understand that she wasn't paying me some outrageous compliments. When it became clear to her that I did...lets just say I laughed so hard I damn near cured my depression.

Then she tried to have words the psychaitrist, saying there may have been a mistake in the diagnosis that was made 10 years prior, backed up by almost every doctor I've had...just thinking about it makes me smile, what a moron!
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I've told 3-4 people, but not of them I have AS
1 is a friend who knows nothing about it
1 is a friend who's a qualified nurse, but understood why I believe I have it.
1 is my sister, who just dismissed it.
1 is my mum, who also understands why I believe I have it.

There's a lot of different things in my life that are not as they should, or could be, given my intelligence, upbringing, education etc.
So far, AS is the closest explanation I have for this. I may be wrong, but if I am I want a better explanation.

Most of the psychs & docs I saw didn't believe I had Aspergers because I communicate too well verbally & seemed too intelligent to have anything on the autism spectrum. The stereotype of Aspergers in my area is like a less sever form of mental retardation so most people won't believe I have it if I tell them

I only found out 6 months ago, that I've been living in a different world to most people i've ever met. That's pretty mind blowing, Scary in fact. My life's in total ruins, but at least now I know why.

I think my mother is still in disbelief, even though I was officially diagnosed. I can't really blame her though. Every mother wants her child to grow up normal. Beyond that, only a few other people know. My father (who was also diagnosed), and a friend of mine who deduced that I was an Aspie long before I ever told him.

Nobody seems to want to talk about it. My eldest daughter does not seem to believe me. They think my Ph.D. neuropsych, an expert diagnostician, must be on shrooms, I guess. They totally got that I had cancer, that I needed a CPAP for apnea, but...Asperger's? "Hmmm, I looked it up and you don't seem to have 'those' characteristics. But...I'm no expert..."

Sigh.

Some people on the Internet don't believe I have AS due to my eloquent writing style. Some people on this very website have questioned whether or not I have AS because I said something they didn't agree with.

I have a gazillion symptoms-- I walked on my tippy toes when I was younger, I spun and rocked for hours, I was in speech therapy forever, I was socially 'off' and so many other things. I now have a 9 year old son with Autism.
A few years ago, I realized I was an Aspie when I was trying to find other people on the internet that had memorized the telephone book...and every single person I found was an Aspie. I'm an author and my editors always comment on how I forget to use "to be" and how I phrase words oddly. Despite all of this, and more, my family does not believe me. My psychiatrist has brushed me off completely, telling me I just "need to grow up" and other ridiculous and unprofessional phrases. (I quit seeing him because of this reason, but now I have no one.)
I just feel really lost. All areas of my life have been impacted by this. I could never finish college, even though my grades were A's. I can't maintain relationships, and I'm terrified to leave the house. I'm not sure what to do.

Question: How does one NOT BELIEVE another person has Asperger's (PDD-NOS/BAP) when one doesn't even KNOW what it IS?

Most people I know have never even HEARD those terms in their lives! It's hard to take their doubt seriously. It's like someone online saying you don't have any of those things when they've never MET you IRL They don't even KNOW you so how can they make THAT judgement?