Abuse and Ignorance

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Wow my speachless this is very tough situration

To Ettina: Lenie says Sorry! She certainly didn't intend to minimize anybody's experiences of abuse - in fact, quite the opposite. Hard to read (on an emotional level), but the groundbreaking studies done long ago by Martin Teicher around abuse (all kinds including verbal) and the effects on the developing brain - I got so pissed! My point was that, if one is rather noticeably autistic, you can try to watch your back - but - like me - sometimes you'll get bushwhacked. This is 1 reason to look at the good things about differently-brained; there are real strengths that should be recognized.

I went to my joint therapy session. My psychologist dismissed the abuse as my parents being under stress. Tootle-loo Mr.Pshych, I am moving on from you. He only focuses on my routine, and dismissed meltdowns as temper tantrums. He knew nothing about meltdowns/shutdowns, and I had to try to explain them to him. Bye-bye.

Things are normally "fine" at home, but my mother becomes very irritable, when it comes to me. I t is generally during those really autistic moments that it really flies.

Sadly, this is all too famaliar for me. Even people here on WP haven't been that friendly to me and even accused me of being a selfish, manulipulative brat.

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Not if the partner's 13.

I hope that you can find an arrangement that will work for you. I was caught up in my own troubles when I first posted in this thread. Are there any trusted relatives that you can live with, or can you live with one of your friends families?

Your "psychologist" is a fake lol. But seriously, that is an awful position to be in.

My mum used to verbally, psychologically and sometimes physically abuse me when I was a teenager. I have AS and schizophrenia, but she didn't understand either of them. Eventually the voices I hear turned me against her and I ended up handcuffed, being dragged out of the house by the police, and my mum with a bloodied hand. I was eventually sectioned under the Mental Health Act. This happened three times. When I was 19, I ended up in the psych ward again, and this time I decided that it was enough and I asked for placement in council-run supported housing. I was homeless for about five months (and I "lived" on the psych ward) until I got a place in supported housing which I moved into, £3 a week rent! I am in another supported housing now (as the old one was not very nice and not conducive to my studying) and I never regretted moving into mental health supported housing.

My mum and I hadn't talked for about a year until recently and she has changed to a nicer person....I HOPE.

Things with my family seem fine... until the next meltdown. Thank you for everything. By the way, it is not exactly easy to find a romantic partner, when most do not have the capacity to understand romance at my age, let alone when you are autistic. I will try. Meltdowns tend to occur 1-3 times a month, sometimes in the same day. I am trying to find a new psychologist, but northern Illinois is not exactly Aspergers friendly. I have not discussed this with my parents, but I did tell my grandmother. She is generally supportive of me, but this time she said, "Why...? ...because he tells you what to do? They are not there to please, you know. They are there to help." I replied, "No..." to her.

I am glad you are able to search for a new psychologist: the one you had seemed toxic, unaware of your condition, and unsupportive of you. You need a nonjudgemental person to go to for advice in the meantime, though. Do you have an educational assistant or aide at your school, or know anyone in your special ed. department you could talk to? People there are often very patient and willing to listen without putting you down or makiing assumptions about you.