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kingdoodle
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16 Sep 2011, 1:33 am

My wife says I only see things in black and white; right and wrong. I could not take the towels. And the q-tip thing would really bother me, too. Everything has to be fair and square. I don't know if I personally want to modify that, or loosen up my conscience. I don't think that I'd take up lying and cheating just to get that monkey off my back. I think the trick might be to not let my conscience be everybody's conscience. Or I become bitter toward the whole wide world.



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16 Sep 2011, 2:31 am

Well, I think it's just because we have such a hard time understanding the social rules, that we worry endlessly if we've broken any. I myself have obssessed over the smallest of percieved social infractions on a pretty regular basis. I try not to if I can. I can't answer why we are like this, but we definitely are, and I think it is a good thing overall, life would be so much more complicated if we had to keep track of all the lies most people do!! ! Plus our interactions when we do have them are more genuine, I have to think this feels more satisfying than lying our way through them.


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16 Sep 2011, 11:17 am

KathySilverstein wrote:
Well, I think it's just because we have such a hard time understanding the social rules, that we worry endlessly if we've broken any. I myself have obssessed over the smallest of percieved social infractions on a pretty regular basis. I try not to if I can. I can't answer why we are like this, but we definitely are, and I think it is a good thing overall, life would be so much more complicated if we had to keep track of all the lies most people do!! ! Plus our interactions when we do have them are more genuine, I have to think this feels more satisfying than lying our way through them.


I think that is probably true. I am overly polite, even when speaking with "roughians".



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16 Sep 2011, 2:09 pm

shrox wrote:
KathySilverstein wrote:
Well, I think it's just because we have such a hard time understanding the social rules, that we worry endlessly if we've broken any. I myself have obssessed over the smallest of percieved social infractions on a pretty regular basis. I try not to if I can. I can't answer why we are like this, but we definitely are, and I think it is a good thing overall, life would be so much more complicated if we had to keep track of all the lies most people do!! ! Plus our interactions when we do have them are more genuine, I have to think this feels more satisfying than lying our way through them.


I think that is probably true. I am overly polite, even when speaking with "roughians".


I found myself so overly concerned in a conversation earlier that I felt like I had to apologize for saying anything at all. And therefore I became awkward, or I thought that she thought I was. But I can't read the signals