Do other Aspies frustrate you with their aspiness?

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my dad annoys me with his aspieness....but that could just be a kid annoyed by his parents....

Well I havent really known very many other aspies that well. I've encountered some aspies as acquaintances and casual friends and no they dont irritate me. Sometimes one of my online aspie friend takes me too literally, thats the only thing that irritates me a little.

Im pretty sure my dads aspie and his rigidity irritates me quite a bit. The fact that he needs to plan way ahead of time and follow a precise daily schedule. Whenever he explains how to do something, he needs to include every single detail. Because of that, I'd rather just figure it out myself. Sometimes he needs to iterate the obvious. He's very conservative and set in his ways. But in the end, our parents always annoy us in certain ways.

Otherwise, if I think someones aspie, I tend to give them more leeway. It relieves me a bit to have that aspie around here and there. I find most aspies to be a fairly non-intimidating presence where as I'm always on my guard with many NTs.

When I go to an aspie social group sometime I feel let out when I can't join in conversations as it is hard for shy people to join in when people are taking constantly about what they like and not asking you anything. So really it is me who is lacking confidence which is the annoying thing.

One thing I do really like about about being with aspies is that I don't get hugged or fake kissed and if I get up to go to toilet etc nobody takes my seat because they respect that I like to have the same seat to feel safer.

In the right mood I can listen to it forever. My brother uses to describe physics to me and he is much better than any teacher I have had, demonstrating everything with items he can find laying around and serving facts after facts, knowing all numbers and all. Sometimes its too much though.

Yes, almost unreasonably so. I think seeing other people with AS do stereotypically AS things reminds me of aspects of my own personality I don't like. Although realising how annoying some of my own habits are after attending AS support groups has been important in my development, I think.

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No, of course not. We are who we are and none of us are perfect.

Familiarity breeds contempt?

What I consider to be negative traits in myself are very difficult to deal with in others sometimes. Though, if I know someone is an Aspie and they do something that I find offensive/irrational, I let it go. As for NTs, I will usually call them out and tell them why something was illogical etc.

Only one other got on my nerves. He wouldn't stop talking to me about Disney movies and Disney World. I didn't complain to him, though. I just listened to him.

I feel I can call you a friend. When I first joined the WP in 2008, I saw your pic posing with a die cast model double decker bus. I used to collect those. I asked you about them, and you kindly responded back. As I stayed around, I noticed how much of a presence you are at the WP. You are a leader in posts. I can honestly tell you (and I mean honestly here), that when I see your name on a topic, I feel comfort. While there are things here that cause me anxiety, you bring me comfort and peace. I enjoy your enthusiasm toward your interests. I haven't really discussed your interests with you---because we all have our own interests. But I enjoy your obsession with the Kinks. When I feel down, your enthusiasm with your interests cheers me up. There are very few members here that I can say that about. You treat people here with respect. If you were to ever leave the WP, I would definitely shed a lot of tears. You are a major part of the WP. And speaking on my behalf---I am never frustrated by your interests. Instead, I find joy in your enthusiasm for your interests.

With the special interest, I would start asking questions.

I know a guy who has this incredible knowledge about sports teams, basketball, football. I have no interest in them most the time but if I hear something on the news and it's a big controversy involving things like conferences which I pretty much know nihl about, I can call him up and he'll tell me what all the conferences' names are and what college is in what conference. Before I know it, I am completely filled in and I can't get all that info just watching the sports segment on the news. It comes in handy at times even though most the time I have no interest in sports.

If someone laughed inappropriately and I didn't know they couldn't help it, I would probably get annoyed. If I found out it was something that couldn't be controlled it wouldn't bother me as much.

i used to frustrate myself with my own aspieness, and still do from time to time. but other aspies aren't heavy, they're my brothers.

Needs a thumbs up emoticon here.

I'm posting because my mum has just frustrated me all morning and she's on the other end of the phone. I've no doubt she's probably an Aspie, as was her mother. She ordered curtains and, being elderly, needed a lot of help with measurements, etc. In the shop, I did most of the talking, as the girl would ask a simple question and my mum would look at her as if she was talking Japanese (this is very common with her and drives my dad bonkers). The curtains were made and I put them up yesterday. She's really unhappy with them and it's all because they're wider than she'd hoped for. But, as I'm not psychic, I had to make assumptions and she didn't disagree with my suggestions. They're also too wide for the tie-backs (which are supposedly intended for that width, so I'm definitely not to blame there). She's been on the phone to the shop, arguing about the tie-backs, with the assistant, who she described as 'a cheeky b***h'. To be quite frank, my mum is the one who tends to come across as 'a cheeky b***h'. She went on to re-enact the conversation, which sounds like any shop assistant's worst nightmare. She's phoned me 3 times this morning before 10.30am. She said, 'You'd be upset if your curtains weren't right'. I said, 'I wouldn't lose any sleep over it'. Then she apologised when she remembered that concerns about my daughter are much bigger than that.

ok then,
i'm glad you're of the generation [or close enough to it] to get the musical reference.

Ah, I see you have mastered the "view more Emoticons" technology that... I keep forgetting about.



And yeah, I got the reference. I was going to dig up the reference from Red Dwarf but I couldn't find a video clip of it.

red dwarf never saw a frame of that program. i was referring to The Hollie's 1969 hit "he ain't heavy [he's my brother]," a most soulful and heartwarming song.
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tygi85Xd2eo[/youtube]

lyrics-

The road is long
With many a winding turn
That leads us to who knows where
Who knows when
But I'm strong
Strong enough to carry him
He ain't heavy, he's my brother

So on we go
His welfare is of my concern
No burden is he to bear
We'll get there
For I know
He would not encumber me
He ain't heavy, he's my brother

If I'm laden at all
I'm laden with sadness
That everyone's heart
Isn't filled with the gladness
Of love for one another

It's a long, long road
From which there is no return
While we're on the way to there
Why not share
And the load
Doesn't weigh me down at all
He ain't heavy, he's my brother

He's my brother
He ain't heavy, he's my brother...

now, as red GREEN would say, "remember, folks- we're all in this thing together."

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