What psychological affect do you have on people?

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When you talk to people, how does their mood tend to change? I notice that when I speak, when they reply, I can tell from their tone of voice that I depress them suggesting I'm depressed. But, I don't "feel depressed" nor do I seem to "act depressed"...? So, maybe I just have a depressive personality or something?

Or, maybe this is common among aspies?

I don't know but I'm eager to hear your experiences!

Last edited by swbluto on 26 Sep 2011, 10:01 pm, edited 1 time in total.

They get pissed off a lot, impatient and argumentative.

I'd say social undermined me. Seems like the trend for me.

As far as I can tell they stay in the same mood as they were before I spoke to them.
Usually I only speak to people to get information or to convey facts.

I speak to my students more, and my effect on them tends to be contigent upon whether they've actually practiced their instrument.

I don't really know the psychological effect I have on others.

I remember when I socialized more in the 90s that an acquaintance said something like "I like Verdandi, I really do. I don't say this to be mean, but I can only take her in small doses." And I've noticed that with some people they tend to cut off conversations fairly quickly.

I think my attorney was frustrated with me because I had so much trouble with speech and understanding him at the time, but I was definitely not at my best at the time. I'd told my mother earlier that week that I was having a lot more trouble talking to people than usual.

Last edited by Verdandi on 28 Sep 2011, 4:08 am, edited 1 time in total.

According to one member here the men at the meet ups either irritated her or aroused her self pity , sounds like reasonable assessment of autistic men to me, I did ask her if she thought it was a one way street to which I got no answer so which one are you

I've been told when I am happy I light up a room but when I am dour I bring the room way down. I exude energy.

Uhhh... you efficiently and accurately communicate emotive states through your use of tone, volume, facial expressions and body language.

Whereas, the opposite seems true of me. I may feel energetic, but it doesn't seem to "translate" correctly, lol.

Actually, it's just my eyes. I mean, they extremely expressive. That's why I like to wear sunglasses. If I am in a bad mood, I tend to glare without realizing it. Sometimes I don't even realize I am in a bad mood and it bothers people because I walk around with this glare. The glare is the thing that can put them in a bad mood. One time I glared at someone and they got really upset and I didn't even realize I was glaring. Another time, I had a glare and a frown and looked really glum and my friend griped it me about thirty minutes for it.
So, I put sunglasses on and either smile or have an expressionless mouth and it works out well.

Last edited by ooOoOoOAnaOoOoOoo on 26 Sep 2011, 10:45 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Like anime eyes?

Not quite like that. I edited my post because I felt it required further explanation for clarity's sake. It's a glare kinda thing that exudes negative energy, at least that's what I have been told. I would say I am "intense."

Normally when socially competant people make conversation with me they'll start out with a very cheery tone and then they maintain the cheery tone and then the conversation dies because I cant keep it up. Its awkward. Then they might walk away slightly disappointed. Its hard for me to bounce the cheeryness. I'd guess most people find that attitude contagenous but it actually scares me.

I've had people say after spending any amount of time with me that they felt like killing themselves. I'm unsure whether they were being serious or not, but it really hurt to be told that.

Not to mention that on those occasions, I happened to be feeling very positive and uplifted, and thought that it was clear to all that I was in a great mood. *Sigh*

They're not being serious and they're just trying to insult you. Even if people did want to kill themselves after talking to you, they wouldn't tell you unless they wanted to hurt you because they know that it'll hurt you.

i tend to have a calming effect on people because i am a calm person.

I've been told talking to me is like talking to a brick wall, and I regretfully have to agree. Usually I take a long time to process what people are telling me and so I don't tend to reply. I just listen then walk away.