Never understood the need to talk? Difficulty talking?

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When i was growing up the only talking i figured that needed to be done was only on the topic at hand. So if you were doing something then you could talk about that. My family would have dinner together and talk about their days and things that happened and what not and it made me angry because it seemed irrelivant to eating dinner. So i got mad one time when my brother was talking to my dad and said why are you always talking to dad during dinner? Then everyone got mad at me and sent me to my room.

I don't really have difficulty with this as an adult although maybe with incredibly irrelivant info. I can understand why we should talk now but I am not very good at it probably because i've gone so long without talking much.

Talking about people I do not know nor have any thoughts on them i find quite irritating.

Kind of like on that south park episode where all stan hears is s**t....but i don't think i was depressed when i was really young and angry at my family for talking during dinner. Later it might have turned into depression but before that I simply didn't get the point of talking.


Not sure if this is AS related or not.

Umm yeah, I guess

Talking is overrated.

Monastic orders of all persuasions (especially´Buddhist) are very down on talking, because it's a pointless distraction and dissipates the mind.

There are classical Buddhist texts listing in great detail all the various forms of futile speech to be avoided. They make a great read. Especially if you're into hypnotic monotony in your reading. I recommend strongly.

Last edited by Halligeninseln on 06 Oct 2011, 1:53 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Talking is kind of background noise and i try to ignore it.

I was talking with an attractive French girl last night.

If I had the right words she would have been my lover

Bottom line

I feel more relaxed and at peace when I'm silent.

I'm fascinated! Are they online anywhere? Where can I read them?

What's the cliche?
Something like:
NT's/women talk primarily to share feelings and experiences.
Autistics/men talk primarily to share information.

(Lest someone get up in arms, I have heard both of these- not implying women are inherently NT, or v.v. or that men are Autistic, or likewise.)

im cute

I was kinda raised in a household where talking was mostly a means of needed exchanging information. My dad is like that, all I talk to him is solely purposeful exchanges, we never talk just to talk. But then my dads aspie and he only relates to my brother. He makes the excuses that me and my sister are girls so he cant really relate which i think is a crock of s**t. Oh I dont know how to relate to women, whateva, going solely on stereotypes.

ahhhhhhhhhhhahaha True! Interestingly, this whole year I have kept to myself. I have not visited one single person nor engaged in a single conversation. That is actually a first for me. It has been difficult in the transition but liberating. It did not occur to me until reading your post Surfman, that my sudden disinterest in compromising with regards to conversation coincides with a decision last year to give up on "chasing" women.

Thanks for that brillinat insight! lol That cracks me up actually. I always had minimal interest in conversation and just prefered the quiet company of loved ones. I guess I unconsciously stuck with the whole socialising thing out of a desire for sex. Yay for finally growing up! I do like women very much but I like my energy too.

As a child and teenager I was very reluctant to speak unless I had something of value to say. This was often wrongly interpreted as an inability to speak, especially by born chatterers who could not imagine anyone willingly exercising self control.