Quite aspies vs Loud aspies

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I tend to be a person of extremes I'm either really quiet or really loud. I'm usually quiet with strangers and louder with people I know well but it can go either way.

I think it mainly depends on my mood. If I'm happy or excited then I can be really talkative to anyone (whether they want to talk to me or not lol) but if I'm in a bad mood, tired or stressed then I go really quiet and would rather be alone. I also have adhd so I guess that would explain the extremes and as there is such a high co-morbid rate with this and ASD I wonder if all the loud aspies also have adhd and just get hyperactive.

I am loud, but certainly not because I want to be.

When young I learned - or assumed - that loud and bubbly = socially acceptable. That, then, is who I became when around others. I slap that face on when I leave my home and, despite becoming more and more overwhelmed as the day goes on, I keep it on to try to appear normal. Doing so is automatic; I do not think about it anymore.

When I've been at it for too long I'll start to shut down. Staring into space and increased stimming is the norm, then, but I'm usually not aware of it. I'm still mindlessly trying to be that effervescent, social female that I think society wants me to be.

I would much rather feel comfortable enough to be pleasant but quiet.

Around strangers and people I do not know well I'm extremely shy and quiet, but with people I like and friends I speak way to fast, way to much, and waaay to loud.

I'm weird. When around strangers, I'm inhumanly quiet. Back in high school, for example, I could spend the whole day without saying a single word. I did the same during the first months of every job I ever had (only spoke to my superiors). Also, my voice is always quiet on those occasions.

On the other hand, when I feel comfortable enough, I will talk very loud and nonstop, in a very Deadpool like manner. I will talk about my interests, but most of the time I am telling jokes. Even when I'm doing important things, like working or studying, I will make funny remarks that, given my very uncommon sense of humour, are not always understood by other people.

But I'm not all that sure if i have Asperger's syndrome anyway. Although I apparently fit most of the criteria, I have only my own observations as reference. I really need the opinion of an expert.

Quiet.

I rarely spoke as a child. I could go weeks in school never uttering a word, including stock phrases like, "Can I go to the restroom."

One of my teachers even called a conference with my mother to discuss my "arrogance (because I never spoke to anyone)."

I speak more now; however, mostly around people I'm comfortable with.

i am mostly quite but when i sense that someone said something wrong or talks about my obsessions you really can't close my mouth.
i am also good at discussing with people.

My daughter is a loud aspie. Although in any new situation, she's generally quiet until she is comfortable with the lay of the land. But I am starting to feel that her constant talking (generally about her topics of interest, IE history, movies and/or the universe) could be construed as stimming? Not sure about this but I know she "has" to talk, and even if it's an innapropriate moment and she is shhed...it's almost obsessive that she has to say what she started to say, even if she'll get into trouble. Her conversations (with me at least...but I have observed conversations with friends) are very one sided. And she's very egocentric. Which means I don't think she's aware of the fact that her talking can cause problems.