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Noodle89
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23 Oct 2011, 8:06 pm

Do any of you feel like you can't relate to your family? I feel like i'm just so different from them. I have 3 older sisters and they all have kids now. I'm not a mom and i don't plan on being one. I really don't like babies or little kids. My family thinks i'm mean because i dont interact with their kids. I can't help that i don't like them:/ I get really agitated when my whole family comes over because they talk about the same crap and i feel like i can't contribute to anything. Everything i'm interested in just isnt important to them. I just feel so opposite from them and my family is all i have. I have no friends... I feel better when my family leaves and i have the place to myself. Does anyone else feel the same way? I do feel bad sometimes, but they also annoy me-__-



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23 Oct 2011, 8:13 pm

Believe me, it soooo hard to relate to people with kids. The other night I had a dream that I had a kid and I turned it into a sausage. That's how much I love children! I can't find any men that don't want children. It's already hard enough finding a guy, and one that doesn't want children? That's impossible.


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23 Oct 2011, 8:18 pm

Luckily my Mum and her side of the family include everyone and all of our interests when we get together, there is never anyone who ends up feeling like their interests are unimportant, and I'm sorry you have to deal with that from your own family. Maybe talking to them about how you feel might help? One at a time or something might be least overwhelming, maybe listing why you don't really get on with children (they're loud which hurts your ears, unpredictable which causes anxiety, etc.) and hopefully they will at least TRY to understand and get interested in what you like since you sit through their interests.



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23 Oct 2011, 8:29 pm

Ria1989 wrote:
Believe me, it soooo hard to relate to people with kids. The other night I had a dream that I had a kid and I turned it into a sausage. That's how much I love children! I can't find any men that don't want children. It's already hard enough finding a guy, and one that doesn't want children? That's impossible.
its like thats all they can talk about! I'm sure if all i did was talk about my cat (if i had one) they would get tired of it pretty fast. They hate cats:/ that's another problem I have right now. I have a bf and he eventually wants kids... I really dont want problems in the future:(

It seems like the only people i can relate to are online...and far away*_*



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23 Oct 2011, 8:48 pm

Ria1989 wrote:
Believe me, it soooo hard to relate to people with kids. The other night I had a dream that I had a kid and I turned it into a sausage. That's how much I love children! I can't find any men that don't want children. It's already hard enough finding a guy, and one that doesn't want children? That's impossible.
its like thats all they can talk about! I'm sure if all i did was talk about my cat (if i had one) they would get tired of it pretty fast. They hate cats:/ that's another problem I have right now. I have a bf and he eventually wants kids... I really dont want problems in the future:(

It seems like the only people i can relate to are online...and far away*_*



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24 Oct 2011, 1:42 am

Yes, I have drifted apart from my father on the aspect of my career.


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24 Oct 2011, 1:51 am

Ria1989 wrote:
Believe me, it soooo hard to relate to people with kids. The other night I had a dream that I had a kid and I turned it into a sausage. That's how much I love children! I can't find any men that don't want children. It's already hard enough finding a guy, and one that doesn't want children? That's impossible.


Not impossible lol I don't like kids and I don't plan on ever having children


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24 Oct 2011, 2:05 am

Noodle89 wrote:
Do any of you feel like you can't relate to your family? I feel like i'm just so different from them. I have 3 older sisters and they all have kids now. I'm not a mom and i don't plan on being one. I really don't like babies or little kids. My family thinks i'm mean because i dont interact with their kids. I can't help that i don't like them:/ I get really agitated when my whole family comes over because they talk about the same crap and i feel like i can't contribute to anything. Everything i'm interested in just isnt important to them. I just feel so opposite from them and my family is all i have. I have no friends... I feel better when my family leaves and i have the place to myself. Does anyone else feel the same way? I do feel bad sometimes, but they also annoy me-__-


I am with you! Doesn't help that I am the only AS in my entire family (Dad had three wives, big family). It's funny how they talk about the same thing every day like it's a new thing, but they're idiots and they don't know it. Instead of talking about trivial things, I sit alone and analyze myself as well as my entire family, you wanna know what I've found out?


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24 Oct 2011, 9:50 am

When he was alive, my father used to complain that I acted as though I wasn't even part of a family because I was soooo...sequestered within myself...in my own world. My aunt had a habit of calling me Mr. Non-Chalant because I seemed to eventually drift away from what was going on in family gatherings as if to be unconcerned.


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24 Oct 2011, 10:46 am

Yeah, it is very difficult finding people close by that feel the same way. I guess I shouldn't generalize by saying that all men want children, but a large majority do!


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