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31 Oct 2011, 12:08 am

If someone hurt you emotionally, physically, psychologically, or all of the above,

how did you get over it, how bad/how did it feel and any thoughts or stories where the 'harasser' is oblivious to what they are doing and can/how do you help them stop their harassing.

How do you resolve conflict/'repressed' emotion if the harassing is ongoing, ...

also, Some people I've met have unresolved emotional scars that 'help' them harass/ be destructive or controlling etc.

another question - if someone you know also has severe PTSD and say they are over something, but really have outbursts and lonliness and other typical qualities associated with having emotional scarring, like depression or rage.

why would I eat taco bell if it gives me abominable abdominals.



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31 Oct 2011, 1:56 am

You can get PTSD in a lot of other ways than just those 3... I'm not sure if you knew that and just wanted to know experiences specific to those ones, or if you thought those were the only things that could cause it.

From my understanding you never fully get over it, you just learn how to deal better with the things it happens to carry with it which takes acceptance that something bad happened, figuring out what triggers which symptom, and working on making it less triggering, and dealing with the psychological side of it with a good psychologist. People who use their past as an excuse to hurt anybody are just perpetuating what's known as a cycle of abuse, regardless of whether or not they are aware of it- Most of them are in denial or are just so bitter and crave control so much, that they don't care.

When someone says they're over something traumatic when it's obvious they aren't, it's denial. It happens, it's like an alcoholic refusing to admit they have a problem when it's clear they do. Just like eating taco bell if you know it's going to cause issues, it's a choice only the person dealing with it can make.



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31 Oct 2011, 2:08 am

well i went to a military school because my parents didn't understand me.
I never really got over it...



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31 Oct 2011, 6:34 am

twich wrote:
You can get PTSD in a lot of other ways than just those 3... I'm not sure if you knew that and just wanted to know experiences specific to those ones, or if you thought those were the only things that could cause it.

From my understanding you never fully get over it, you just learn how to deal better with the things it happens to carry with it which takes acceptance that something bad happened, figuring out what triggers which symptom, and working on making it less triggering, and dealing with the psychological side of it with a good psychologist. People who use their past as an excuse to hurt anybody are just perpetuating what's known as a cycle of abuse, regardless of whether or not they are aware of it- Most of them are in denial or are just so bitter and crave control so much, that they don't care.

When someone says they're over something traumatic when it's obvious they aren't, it's denial. It happens, it's like an alcoholic refusing to admit they have a problem when it's clear they do. Just like eating taco bell if you know it's going to cause issues, it's a choice only the person dealing with it can make.


That sounds about right to me. I have also met people with issues who mock or critisize other people with issues, as if they themselves do not. That's an example of denial.

Sometimes you can be over something, but can still experiencing the effects of it, because PTSD is a fear/threat response which has been ingrained in memory and senses. So someone can be over it, but still have problems. I think that communication and understanding is crucial, professional help/education, and a lot of patience, for all parties. But if someone is hurting you then don't continue, because even if they don't mean to it's not healthy for yourself or them, and there's nothing you can do about that except communicate and create sufficient distance between you, either emotionally or physically.



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31 Oct 2011, 8:29 am

I remember being bullied by family members and to an extent it still happens when does I shut down and can't do anything for long periods of time. I don't have good family relations because I feel too stressed around them now. I also had bad school experiences which makes me too uncomfortable to go to college or university. So far my support resources have not helped me with these problems. They don't seem to have counseling for domestic abuse victims.



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31 Oct 2011, 9:18 am

Animals as well as humans suffer considerably on planet earth

The sparrows living under my roof eaves, had their nest raided by a myna who ate their baby chick, IN FRONT OF THEM 8O

My advice would be to HTFU, its not going to get better quickly



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31 Oct 2011, 10:39 am

You won't ever be the person you were before. But you can find happiness, although it's a long hard road.

Most people have a delusion that bad things will never happen to them. They know intellectually that bad things happen, they just assume it won't be to them or anyone really important to them. When that illusion is shattered, you start seeing danger everywhere. But life doesn't have to be perfect to be good. If you learn to grab the moments of happiness that you have and hold onto those, you can live pretty well.