Feel as if i missed out on life as an aspie

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I don't feel that I've missed out on anything. Top 40, drinking, skimpy clothes and other things aren't really all that much to be missing out on in my mind. I feel that I'm missing out on a lot more, if I'm not at home listening to my CDs and posting on WP.

If you truly enjoy your life, no matter how you're living it, you're not missing out.

Having done quite a bit of normal, and failing at it all. I can say for sure that the relatively peaceful life of pursuing an interest is far better, even if I succeeded at normal.

Normal is normal for normal people. We have a different normal, and it's called abnormal. Neither is better, rather, it's whether which one is better for you that makes it better.

Go and try normal if you want. Know that the insane effort you'll go to to just seem passable, will never be fully appreciated by normal, and you'll be trampled on and thrown away when you can't keep it up.

The grass might look better, but know that it's only because of the pesticide.

To the OP: I just wanted to let you know I feel the same way too, but life is what you make of it. If you want romance, go out and seek it. Get rejected, screw up, move on. Life's an adventure. If you are sad that you cannot find success in social relationships, well, there are other good things about life too. Maybe you should take up an art, musical instrument, math, programming, science, or something. Something you can do alone and compatible with your strengths and interests. After all, there are extremely successful people who are perfectly happy spending their lives alone composing music or doing physics.

Also, whether you are NT or autistic, there will always be aspects of your life you are not satisfy with. Just ask anyone.

I'm sorry:( Have you considered seeing a therapist who has experience with Autism? Or maybe there are some kind of support groups in your area where you can make friends?

I know plenty of people who are unemployed, and there are more people my age who don't want to work than do (I am one who does want to work but can't find a suitable job).

But I do feel as though I'm missing out on life. Every time I get asked out by a boy I tend to suddenly feel depressed and I end up backing out of the relationship. My social phobia is really getting in the way of my social life. I want a social life, but I can't have one because of my social phobia. I see pictures on Facebook of my cousins standing with their friends in bars, and I really badly want to do that, but I only would if I had the right social skills to do it. I am a target for bullies and I encourage hatred and I give off the ''I'm a twat'' vibes all the time and each time I start a friendship I always blow it by acting weird in some way. It's not so much what I say, it's the body language and signals I give off what is mostly socially wrong.

And no, I am not the sort to want to exclude myself from the social world and sit and focus on a special interest, because a) I don't have a special interest based on facts or objects, b) my special interests are based around people and social interaction, and c) I like people and having friends.

NTs don't just go to work for choice of socialising. Most people haven't got a choice but to work because they don't get free money for doing nothing. That applies to me too. I know someone who absolutely loathes their full-time job, but she has to stick there because she owns a mortgage and hasn't got much courage to leave and find another local job.

I want to be NT, but the reason is not ''because I will be a perfect, well-adjusted person who will do all the right things in life and meet the right man and have a perfect wedding day and a perfect job''. My reason is because I just want to subconsciously be able to appear ''normal'' without having to keep putting on a charade all the time if I don't want to look stupid. And that may seem like a tiny problem, but really it is a big problem that is soul-destroying. Also I hate walking around giving off the wrong body language all the time. I want to give off more of a sociable vibe, and I want to be able to block out crowds in shopping centres too. And there's a lot more reasons why I want to be NT, but never ''because I will be a perfect, well-adjusted person who will do all the right things in life and meet the right man and have a perfect wedding day and a perfect job'', because I do know that is not what being NT is all about. NTs can be weird, creepy, selfish, lazy, rude, unhappy, awkward and so on. I just wish I was more different to what I am.

...I'm homeless , VERY sick , have essentially NOTHING but what I can carry on my (collapsing from my wounds and exaustion) body ...........










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