Using words to describe how you feel

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When ever i'm asked "whats up?" I say "ummm" and it takes me a while to think about how things are going...resulting in a long awkward pause-__-

When ever i'm asked "whats up?" I say "ummm" and it takes me a while to think about how things are going...resulting in a long awkward pause-__-

That's a good idea. I should write a song.

"Billions are dying" (very loud metallic music)
"Everyone is mad" (screaching discordant music)
"You don't care if you are lying" (distorted feedback)
"You wonder why I'm sad?" (acapela)

If a therapist argues with me as to my choice of words to describe how I feel, I dump them. I use the terms that accurately describe how I feel. "Overwhelmed and frustrated" are accurate terms for me. If I were seeing the same guy, and he argued with me, insisting I should be using some other word, or insisting "You must have felt hurt," I would set him straight in a hurry. Been there, done that. Any therapist that INSISTS I must feel something I don't, is an idiot. Therapy isn't effective without a trust relationship between patient and therapist. When a therapist argues with me or insists I must feel things I do not feel, I know they do not trust me, which causes me to automatically lose any and all faith in them as a therapist.

What really used to piss me off in those situations is that they would do what yours did, then harp on it, which of course would piss me off, then they would get this quizzical look on their face and start asking, "Why are you angry?" Why do you think, stupid?! You're basically telling me I'm in denial of something that's nothing more than a figment of your own imagination!

If there is one thing I've learned about myself, it's that I don't have a lack of vocabulary to describe my emotions. I just don't have that many emotions to describe!

Funny because I hate it when people ask me "what's new?" My brain immediately starts working a mile a minute thinking
- does she mean what's new since she last saw me? lets see. when was the last time she saw me....what's happened since then? What's happened since then that she might care about? Did I already tell her the thing about the thing-amajig? Did anyone tell me not to tell her about the thingamajig? Wait a minute - is she just asking me this to be polite? What if she doesn't really care?

meanwhile, I've taken too long to answer her question, and I start stressing about that, so ultimately say "Oh nothing" and then think she must think I'm boring.
It's hard being in my head.

Using words to describe how you feel

Quite impossible for myself,
however I am astonished at the ability of others
to describe my innermost feelings / thoughts / beliefs.

Yeah, I am getting frustrated with this one. I felt like he asked a bunch of leading questions, prodding me for "yes" answers, so he could package it all up nicely and say, "see, you have THIS!". And when I disagree, I'm in denial. But maybe if he asked some different questions, instead of just the ones that would get the answers he wanted, maybe he wouldn't be so sure of his conclusions either.

I like to think I have a good grasp on descriptive and emotive words. And, when I'm feeling a big emotion, it's kind of easy to explain it but most of the time my emotional states aren't so black and white. My emotions are very muddled - lots of grey areas and lots of overlapping emotions for varying reasons. I also tend to 'absorb' emotions from the environment so it's even more difficult trying to figure out what is mine and what I'm just projecting. I also don't feel 'correctly' - lots of inapropriate emotional responses to situations.

Why do psychs think emotions are so cut and dried anyway? Happy, sad, angry can have nearly endless variations - I know my variations don't really have words to adequately describe them.