Do you attract hippies, weirdos, and otherwise crazy people?

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I used to think I attracted crazy people. But over the years I realized something. I am so aloof and reserved, and generally clueless about whether people even like me or not, that the only people who can really get through to me are the really pushy types, the people who are not easily rebuffed by my aloofness. A lot of those pushy types turn out to be crazy. They don't have good personal boundaries, and that's why they feel the need to push and invade other people's lives. So it's not exactly that I attract them, it just seems that way because they are the only ones who make a connection with me.

I don't know if I attract them but I do tend to find them interesting because they are different. And sometimes different is quite different..

I've long thought that since most people ignore them or actively avoid them they are excited to get any attention at all and so they want to become my 'instant best friend'.

Sometimes I'm just being polite in the first place, though.. sadly, politeness often seems to be detrimental to my well-being.. go figure, since supposedly politeness is supposed to make everything better - was it all a big lie? Mmm.

Ever since I was young I have gotten strange folk coming up to me out of the blue and telling me their secrets. I'm talking like people on the bus going on about their mental illnesses, being on welfare, students telling me about how they long to cheat on their husbands, want to kill themselves etc. I have never understood why this happens to me. It doesn't happen to any of my other friends or family members, but my mom says people used to do this to my late grandmother as well. Weird.

Yeah, I'm the weirdo. I'm a gifted punk, lol.

It has happened a few times that weird people or people with evident disabilities approached me and started talking to me while I was talking a stroll or waiting for the bus. It might be because I usually walk looking at the street pavement so people might think I'm sad or something. This usually makes me very nervous but I usually don't push people away abruptly, so I end up talking to them for a little while, before finding an excuse/taking the bus. Last time it happened I was in a blue mood and the conversation was actually helpful to me.

In the past I think I did attract people who were very manipulative towards me because I did have self esteem issues and they assumed I wouldn't turn the tables on them.As I have matured those types of people have disappeared from my life .

I can walk into a crowded room and immediately recognize who I would get along with.

Most of the time, they're the "hippies, weirdos, and otherwise crazy people".

I love them. They're my people; the ones I have made all my best friendships with.

I would not have it any other way.

These kinds of people are who I get along with, too. But I don't find them weird or crazy.

Amen.

We're a bunch of weirdos ourselves. I think we have a hard time just accepting that and whenever other eccentric people come around us, we get uneasy since they remind us of parts of ourselves we don't like.

Every single person whom I had close relationships with happened to have some kind of neurological issue, traumatic background, or non-conformist attitude. And it's not like I consciously chose them because of it either. We just happened to "click" on some level I couldn't with "normal" people.

The only peer that I've ever been good friends with IRl was really quite a normal NT.

Damn why the hurry to avoid weird or mentally disabled, disordered people? for one I would feel bad about avoiding someone because they seem unusual or mental not to mention they are intresting to talk to. I mean its weird when you've had better conversations with random homless addicts, scizophrenics ect. then you've had with people in your own family.

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It is weird for me because the random homeless/crazy people seem to understand me more, and are more interesting than a NT talking...

We Keplians need to stick together... Today the crazy people, tomorrow the WORLD!

Just to clarify, I have no problem with these people coming up and talking to me. I just find it odd for them to share such intimate things with a relative stranger. Mostly I wonder why they chose me.

I'd try to "escape" from any stranger starting to talk to me when I am minding my own business, especially men, since I find hard to figure out people's intentions. The thing I wanted to point out is that only this kind of people start talking to me randomly.

Also, I can't deny having a difficult time being around people who are less "capable" or less educated than I am. I learned how to behave in such situations, over time, but that's just because other people (eg. parents) told me that I had been rude and I shouldn't act like I did. I don't want people to feel miserable because they can't understand when I speak or because I look blatantly uninterested when they speak.

I find myself surrounded by strange and weird people all the time - because they're my friends! We're all a bunch of oddballs who have something "wrong" with us in some way. I'm friends with manic depressives, schizophrenics and a few other Aspies to name a few. I guess we all just somehow found each other because we were rejected by everyone else perhaps, so we have that shared experience and we're also more tolerant of each other's quirks. Plus there's the fact I find normal people boring and superficial.

I usually do, I wish I attracted more though, enough to start some kind of "super group of weirdos". I also noticed that I also attract the "scumbags" of society. The punk-like people. The ones that society seems to shun, I don't necessarily like them either, but they flock to me for some reason, do I look like some kind of ringleader or something? Hmm, I could use this to my advantage though... *evil grin*