Do you attract hippies, weirdos, and otherwise crazy people?

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No. I generally repel all people.

I am a hippy, weirdo, and otherwise crazy person.

I wouldn't say that I attract "weirdos" so much as I attract people who are interesting...once, when I was in a Borders store, this guy kept watching me, and after about half an hour of watching me and writing on these little scraps of paper, he came over to where I was sitting, and handed them to me...he'd written me a thank you for having recognized him from a week before, and had written about how he worked at Krogers, his interest in the British Royal Air Force, and his aspiration to become a British citizen one day. My dad showed up at the store a while later, and the guy showed him some photos he took of some RAF monuments on a trip to Britain.

There was also a homeless man at one of the churches my mom used to go to...he and I always sat together during the coffee hour and chatted. It seemed that whenever he and I talked, we would usually end up on the same topic....where was I from....Kentucky....Oh, that's where the KY Derby is, right? You ever bet on the horses there?...that can be fun, but you gotta be careful not to lose all your money...etc. That topic seemed to hold a certain significance for him, so I always just let him give his spiel about avoiding gambling. He and I got to be good friends, tho, and for awhile, I got the idea that maybe my mother and stepfather could let him stay at their house, so he wouldn't have to be homeless any longer, and to sort of lay the framework for this, I introduced him to my younger half - sisters...tried to, anyway. When my youngest half - sister saw him, she hid her face behind me and said, "I'm afraid of that man!" (He was a bit unkempt and was missing some teeth, but for crying out loud, he was homeless.) Needless to say, my plan to get him "adopted" never came to fruition, but my mom did tell me that the reverend of the church would sometimes pay for a hotel room for him to stay in. She also told me that he would sometimes have delusions that he was Jesus Christ, but I never saw that actually happen in the time frame I knew him.

And another time in a Target store, a man who looked to be about 30 - something approached me and asked me for a date. I was only 16 at the time, so I politely told him, "Thank you, sir, but I'm too young." He replied, "Oh...maybe next year," and went on his way.

That's how most people would describe me.

Well, I'm sure crazy people could just stop being crazy to suit your sensibilities, but they can't.

They can't help the way they are just as much as we can't help the way we are.

OP are you afraid that the 'crazy' people will harm you?

Or that they are attracted to you because they detect something in you that is similar to them?

Are you worried that you could end up like your father?

Well, now that I think of it, I guess thats how the so-called "ordinary" people would probably label me too.

I could do with having a few real life awesome eccentric crazy people to interact with, I am kind of void of interesting real life things going on at the moment.
I guess this is one of the reasons why I love mindfulness and meditation... even when my life seems very dull, I can, with enough relaxation and peace, still find myself fun for me to get along with, so I become comfortable.

I do want to interact with some awesome eccentric crazies though.

Yeah, I think that could be true for me, too! No one's come right out and called me any of those things yet, but I know it's coming!

Interesting topic. I noticed a while ago that I do attract "unusual" people. This is likely due to the fact that I'm not judgmental and I don't repel "weird" people like "normal" people tend to do. I did notice that gay men like me too which is a pity because I'm straight. So I just take it as a compliment.

They must see something in me that's like them and it's very bothersome because I try to everything I can to cover it up.

But there's nothing to cover, it's like a radar.

Yes, I have always been afraid that I'll end up like my dad and my other insane family members, so this in particular really does scare me.

I do as much as I can to seek out people who are considered more "normal" than I am, and repel the ones who are less so.

But yea, I really don't get it, there's nothing I can change about myself to keep them away, I'm as normal as I'm going to get and there's nothing visibly strange about me when I'm just out and about, in a room, not speaking to anyone.

I'm not necessarily afraid they wil harm me, but I don't trust them, and it makes me feel like there's something about me that's going to make it so I end up like them or keep my away from non-crazy people.

I've had friends who were pretty normal and successful, very straight-edged in the past so I know it's not the case, but even they said I was "different' and I know they meant it in a good way, but i'n bothered by the fact that even they could sense that.

I have this invisible thing about me that says "outsider".

Have you ever thought that maybe it's more likely a distorted perception of yours rather than you actually being so frequently accosted by "crazy" people. I mean you say you "sense" that they are crazy and you also said you weed them out and avoid them, yet you say their psychiatrists "label" them for a reason.

First, I think it's important to recognize that psychiatrists diagnose patients with specific mental illnesses in order to treat them properly and help them become more "normal" as it were.

Second, I must ask if you at least occasionally have a psych evaluation to determine the state of your mental health? Being that you are genetically predisposed to mental illness it might be a good idea. Mental illness is often unrecognizable to the sufferer, they often think everyone else is the problem and they are perfectly sane and normal. I do think a psychiatrist would consider your belief that you have the ability to "sense" when someone is mentally ill and you feel like they are out to get you for some reason. It's above human abilities to "sense" mental illness just by looking at someone or speaking with them briefly. It's odd that you somehow find out that all of these people are also labeled by psychiatrists.

I mean no harm, I'm trying to offer the best answer I can. I too come from a family rife with schizophrenia and various mental illnesses. I am not schizophrenic but I am mentally ill and I am on a cocktail of psych meds that help me see the world more clearly and I suppose they make me less crazy and more normal. If I don't take my medications, within two days I'm a danger to others and myself, I'm incredibly destructive, I do things I don't remember later, and the whole time I feel fine and like I'm being perfectly reasonable and when I'm back on my meds and understand what I did I can't even comprehend how I could possibly feel normal or like my behavior wasn't appalling.

My mother is schizophrenic, as was her mother before her and as is her sister. None of them trust doctors. Unfortunately for my sister and I this has lead to us having to cut our mother completely out of our lives. She's destructive, she's irrational and illogical and hateful and just... she stalks and harasses and... I do hope I'm never like her but I realize that without my medication I am just as awful. It's terrible to have a parent who is mentally ill and unstable and harmful.

I suppose what I really mean to get at is that your complaint of being frequently accosted by mentally ill people, whom you know to be mentally ill because you can "sense" it might be a symptom of some type of mental illness in yourself. I could be absolutely wrong, but I think given two options: is it more likely that you are actually a magnet for insane people, or is more likely that you have a delusion that you can be certain that most people who approach you are insane? I'd have to guess it's much more likely that there aren't hoards of mentally ill people who are out to get you as soon as they see you... and very unlikely that you are actually capable of sensing mental illness in complete strangers.

In either case I do hope you find an adequate solution to your problems.

i volunteer with a group of people who, do not fit into the weirdo/crazy category, but lean slightly into the hippy category. fact is, they are all just larger than life, and basically not normal. perhaps that's why i'm really accepted with them

normal is boring and overrated.

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Yes, most of my friends are weird guys (but still NTs), and I don't mind it (i'm very accepting when it comes to people being weird).
I have a lot of trouble with "normal" guys, mainly because I'm like the ultimate weirdo myself, cause of my AS. I usually end up just getting rejected and ignored by them, and sometimes get laughed at.

I don't really understand why you have such a terrible opinion of anyone who's different from the norm, when you say people can sense you're different from the norm. Do you have an issue with yourself you could be projecting? not trying to be mean, but it just seems like you have an unhealthy amount of dislike for anyone who does not strike you as 'normal.'