I'm not quite sure how to vent my irritation appropriately.

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Right now, I'm in 8th grade. Since around the second half of 7th grade, I've been really irritated by this kid. Let's call him Jimmy. When I first met Jimmy, I didn't think much of him. He was in my class. He seemed alright. However, he really started to irk me. I couldn't figure out why for a really long time. However, around the very end of the school year, I finally came to a good conclusion. He pretty much fits my definition as the most annoying person in the world, in my mind. I'm not saying that he is a bad person or anything. He just annoys ME. He also annoys a lot of my friends, who are NT. I'm going to start with my rapid fire of adjectives I could use to describe him:
- Arrogant
- Know-it-all
- Awkward
- Condescending

I could go on. I'm going to try not to vent on this post. But, this kid really irritates me. Half of the time, he's standing near me with this really weird and awkward body language. One time, one of my friends whispers to me "What, is he an Egyptian king?" when he was referring to how he had his arms folded behind his back. I've talked with my parents about this. My dad sorta thinks that I'm jealous of him. Even though it may seem like it, I'm not. I like who I am. I can do plenty of stuff he can't. There is nothing for me to be jealous about. I'm going to limit the rest of this vent to one paragraph, and try to make it as succinct as possible. He constantly boasts about stuff that he clearly can't do. For example, one time I was jamming out on the piano during lunch time, and he quietly makes the comment "I could easily do that." even though he has absolutely no musical talent whatsoever. His clingy personality sort of annoys me. Even though he doesn't cling to me, he clings to girls a lot. I'm pretty confident with girls, so that doesn't really make me jealous. But, the fact that he can't just have a friend that he isn't infatuated with makes me think how people can't realize how annoying he is. He doesn't really have any friends of the same gender. He is vegan, but not actually. He treats more as an egoism to be a self-righteous weirdo that should be on a pedestal. Also, some of my mutual friends that are girls say that he's a nice guy, but really boring. One of them even said he's a "tool", which I agree with.

Anyways, getting that vent aside, I need a way to vent my anger about him. Even though venting in that other paragraph helped a little bit, even the thought of him is obnoxious. Once something reminds me of him, I just get really mad. Luckily, through a lot of effort, I have learned to control my anger. I just don't want my mind to be able to wander onto the topic of him. It's sort of like my mind gets stuck in a ridge when I get onto the topic of him. I don't have that many classes with him, but I do see him throughout the day. The sight of him annoys me. His fake voice that he has when he's talking annoys me. I sort of had the thought of just telling how I feel about him up straight, but I don't want to get in trouble with school. He would simply go and tattle on me. He's one of those kids that sort of has a fake "authority" in my school because he's such a "good student"

So, what do you guys suggest? What kind of ways do you manage anger like this? Tell me anything that I need to know, either about myself, him, or whatever. Just give me some advice, please.

You just need to let it go. What is the point to finding someone annoying for just being themselves?

The kid is probably insecure so makes up lies like that, if it is true.

Are you on the autistic spectrum or is he? He certainly sounds like it. Maybe he has it worse than you and for some reason that's why you find him annoying.

There has to be a deeper reason why you hate him so much. Maybe he's treated better than you and if you have the same condition it upsets you.

When I get angry I look for something to distract me.

Yeah, I have Aspergers, Tourette's(controlled well), OCD, and GAD. I've had thoughts about him being on the autistic spectrum, but his dials are set differently. I learned that analogy from Freaks, Geeks, and Asperger Syndrome. Maybe I said it a little wrong, he's not on my mind constantly. I have a pretty happy life. But, it just really annoys me when he does get on my mind. I do agree that there must a be a deeper reason for why I hate him so much. That's one of the things I've been striving to figure out.

I get very annoyed by people in general and I have to vent verbally about the things that annoy me. It does not work for me to put it out of my mind or just let it go. I have to describe in words what is annoying me. It helps me process the situation. If I don't verbalize it I just feel sort of confused about the situation, like I have some vague feeling of upset but I can't clarify what it's about.

I rarely vent to the person who is annoying me. I mean almost never. I don't know if I could do it if I wanted to. Sometimes in the moment they are irritating me, I'm not even aware of it. It's not until later, the circumstances replay in my head over and over and I realize something about it bothered me. That's when I start feeling the need to talk about it and I'll tell someone who has a similar sense of irritation and can understand what annoyed me. Talking about it to someone who doesn't understand, is not good for me and it makes things worse. So I pick very carefully who I vent to. If I don't have someone else to talk to, I just talk out loud to myself while I'm alone and vent that way.