Talkative Aspies

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Are there any folks with Asperger's here who LOVE to talk? I like nothing more than to be with a friend and have a lovely conversation. I am aware that it is usually quite difficult for Asperger's people to be verbal, and that to be a fluent talker is quite a feat. I would talk to people all day long if they let me. In fact, Mother sometimes calls me "Constant Comment."

My biggest problems with talking is that I interrupt on occassion (usually when I'm with my family) and as I am a bit hard of hearing (10%-15% loss), I have a hard time modulating my voice. It irritates my father especially, and he's forever saying, "lower your voice, the other people can hear you," and this can get to be very embarassing. It really annoys my brother when we're with Daddy and I get loud and Daddy keeps saying, "lower your voice!"

I remember seeing a neurologist in Dallas, Texas and she told me I was one of the most verbal people with Asperger's that she ever saw. She was thrilled that I actually enjoyed talking!

Also when people tell me to lower my voice, I often literally start over with what I was trying to say. "You don't have to repeat it, just lower your voice and continue," is something I frequently hear from my parents.

So are there any Aspies here who are chatterboxes?

He he... hey Hilary...

I'm a total Mr. Chatterbox (like the Mr. Men character!)



At least some of the time. Sometimes I am super-talkative, othertimes I am stone cold silent.

Hey, I thought that being talkative is a typical Asperger's trait. Tony Attwood's book "Asperger's Syndrome: A Guide for Parents and Professionals" on first page presents a girl that bores a postman to death by a long monologue about locomotives. If you replace the girl with the boy, the postman with a neighbor and the particular locomotive by the TGV, you get an image from my childhood. For me talking is so pleasurable that in the past I had problems stopping it even when asked explicitly to do so. Fortunately now I control myself enough that I am usually able to stop before the interlocutor drops dead.

Uhhh, how I hate this! It's no different than being punched in the nose!

Talk till you drop!

If I get into a conversation with someone about something I have intrest in, I could talk for hours. Otherwise I tend to avoid talking to people as much as possible.

I love to talk...if it's on a topic I feel especially comfortable with and profficient. Otherwise, I tend to just sit quietly and listen. I talk a lot at home, and when I get together with my oldest dd (she likes to discuss literature and history, as I do).

When I am in a social situation among non-family members, I try to remain invisible. I've found over the years that if I do attempt a conversation, I end up talking too enthusiatically or too long about whatever it is that caught my interest and people start giving me weird looks. Then I feel really foolish. So I just listen quietly.

someone from another list serve put it this way_

half of all autistic people do not talk, the other half make up for them.
the difference between a NT child and an autistic child is, the NT child ask one thousand questions, the autistic child ask the same question one thousand times.

I could have not said it better myself

sometimes my sons talks so much I ask him to stop ( I know that I really don't want him to stop talking, but...I can only hear so much about the same subject)
he also, will ask the same question over and over ( not exactly 1000 times but more than 20) LOL

Michele

PS>
question:
if you initiate the conversation does it go better than when someone tries to get you to converse with them???
I mean my son can talk well if he starts the conversation and it is usually one sided, but if someone were to try to talk to him- he could not talk as well...

I talk about certain things. I can go on forever about languages, and I mean forEVER. I usually warn people when they ask me about those particular things that I perseverate on, and if they tell me to go ahead I figure they get what they deserve. <g> Ordinarly, though, I'm not much of a talker unless I'm very comfortable with my surroundings and then you can't shut me up.

-tora-b

I'm quite talkative myself. I enjoy talking when it's a situation I'm comfortable in. I also talk a lot when I'm nervous.

When I'm with my family I talk so much that they often tell me to shut up. When I'm with other people I might start talking like crazy if I feel comfartable or very nervous.

I'm like that as well, if a conversation is not centred around a subject I like I just don't talk much at all, just monosyllables!

Same here. Except for me, talking can sometimes become exhausting, so I don't really like to do it that much, even if it is on a subject I'm interested in. Usually, I have to put my "mental brakes" on and stop for a bit, after I eventually realize that the other person might not want to hear so much.



It seems to be the opposite for me. I'm very reluctant to speak, so I very rarely initiate conversation. I'm usually more comfortable if the other person leads the conversation, and talks more. If they start a subject, I will do the "quizzing" thing- asking them as many different questions about it as I can, just to keep them talking, so I don't have to! If they don't choose a subject, then it's more likely the conversation will die quickly.

On the other hand, if the conversation somehow drifts to one of my subjects of interest, well, yes, I will talk a lot. Over the years, I've been criticized for my interests enough that I've become somewhat embarrassed of them, so unless I know a person well, I try to keep the subject AWAY from them.

I talk nonstop.

I am like you. I talk a lot and loudly. Indeed, I often hear "Lower your voice" too, be it from my parents or other people.
But when I am not interested in the topic, if it is not one of my interests or something I can be interested in learning about, then I am very likely to stay totally silent and not even know what to talk. I know that I have always been like that (talkative when interested) because I remember talking to a neighbor I had until I was nine years old about galaxies for quite a long time when I was about six or seven years old.

i either say too much or too little
depends on my mood, which depends on how much sleep i got the night before.
most nt friends steer me meticulously around a conversation because i am so bad at that. my boyfriend has AS qualities, but he is the stronger of us at verbal communication, so he ends up doing most of the steering. i probably drive him quite mad as i meander the conversation off on the most tenuous of links and he has to say: 'so, what were we talking about again...? oh yes, so what did you want to drink?'

I can steer any one-to-one conversation towards one of my favorite topics, and then convert it into a one-sided lecture. And then I am in heavens. Of course, I try not to do it too often nowadays.

I'm the same way, I talk a lot about subjects I'm interested in or have an opinion on - however, if I am in a situation where there is an overbearing person I tend to not talk at all and spend a lot of time looking at my shoes . . .