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Coming late into this thread, but I guess I can answer some of the questions.
Was I self-injurious? To a minor degree, yes. I picked at my chap lips until they were scarred up pretty bad. I would also stim until I dropped from exhaustion, but otherwise I'm not a head-banger. In both ways that can be taken (Heavy Heavy Metal? NO way. Headache city.)
Do I not admit when I'm wrong? Most of the time, if I realize I made an error. Which can happen mostly in social situations. In a debate situation, now...LOL
And I DO have issues with little white lies. I know why NTs use them, but still find it hard myself.

Sincerely,
Matthew

What is the appropriate way to answer if your NT ex-boyfriend texts your in the middle of the night, drunk, telling your that he loves you and misses you, that you're the only one that he wants. That he never felt this way about anyone else. Meanwhile, Iyou have moved on and is dating and in love with a new guy (which, of course, your ex does not know about).

I haven't heard from my ex in months. We broke up because we made each other feel like crap, plus, he's a near-alcoholic student that lives in an apartment that could be on an episode of "how clean is your house". Add to that the fact that I'm not attracted to him anymore.

I apologize if this has already been asked. I didn't bother to read through all of the pages.

Question,
What motivates some NTs to pick on and harass aspies? If you see someone who has obvious difficulty communicating appropriately why would you give them a hard time, rather than trying to help them out? Instead of pointing out their flaws and laughing about them, why don't they point out their flaws privately and give a serious suggestion? I mean, try to assist in some way, not just the old "wtf you're a weirdo!"
The majority of NTs don't bully aspires, generally people have been kind to me, but I've had a few experiences where people point out what I'm doing wrong in front of as large group of people.
What would motivate someone to do so?

Finally up to the current page Thanks everyone for the questions and comments. I'm just wondering when things refer to "eye contact" does that mean the direct uncomfortable eye to eye connection or would it ever refer to just looking at someones face in the general direction of their eyes? Do NTs notice if the person they are talking to is focusing on something very near the eyes but not actually the eyes?

Sometimes they do, but not always. I learned this sometimes useful trick for job interviews a long time ago. Another part of pretending to be "normal"

Sincerely,
Mattew

Hey everyone, im new here, but im an NT and im willing to field some questions some of you may have.

I'm unsure if I can phrase this right. But how do NT's handle jealousy towards other siblings? I mean, my sister is jealous of my house, my car, my style of living, the amount of money I make... my free time.

Its been translating into her talking behind my back and being angry at me in person/snapping at me.

I've been off since Christmas, and she's been angry at me because I'm not running around like a chicken with its head cut off worrying about where my next paycheck is coming from. And since I handled my finances well over the time I was working (I work job to job and get laid off regularly), I'm not stressed. But I often get told I act very arrogant and scare the people I work with/they always try to burn me and/or are afraid of me. I've been told I should make up story's about girls and drinking/or partying and try to fit in with my co-workers to avoid creating enemy's.

Should this be the action I take towards my sister? Such as acting like I'm very worried about money and talk depressed? Or is there a better way of diffusing the situation. It as of yet isn't an issue but yesterday she was very angry at me for no reason/spoke to my mother afterwards about me having a better car (her dad gave her a free one), to which my mom responded "but he's paying for his car still, yours was free"...

But I don't think shes really listening...

I think you're meant to hit her face with the back of your hand. Quite hard.

For any NTs (or aspies) still around:

What does an NT want out of a friendship. A couple of NTs have over the course of many interactions indicated that this is the beginning of a freindship with me, what do I need to do to make this work?

My only other friends are interest based in that we meet together to do something specific in a club/group setting, I would like more friends and we have got along well enough but now the common activity with these two NTs (they are seperate (dont have anything to do with eachother) - two groups of two not one group of three) is finished but they have indicated they still would like to 'catch up', meet up, do stuff etc with me. I dont really know what is involved to make a friendship that is not based on a shared activity work and would appreciate any advice/explanations.

Honestly, friends are not something normally looked for. Most of the time, basically all of my friends right now all share common interests with me which is why they are my friends. Staying friends is basically just as easy as talking somewhat regularly hanging out occasionally, it may be a bit different because im in college and see them almost every day but, the hanging out i referred to is out of school kind of hanging out.