I'm formally diagnosed as having AS

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I've been seeing a psychologist for about a month and a half and he said I'm likely to have AS. He told me that this is actually not his area of expertise so I asked for a referral to another psychologist, as AS is likely to be my primary issue. The other psychologist is a child, adolescent and adult psychologist and he agreed with the first psychologist diagnosis that I have mild AS. Though mild, it does explain a lot about certain things in my life and why certain things are so hard for me.

So far, the new psychologist takes interest in friendships I had/have (or don't have) and my difficulty creating new friendships and social interaction. I'm not sure whether this is AS related, but part of the problem is that I don't find a lot of people I'm interested in being with. Does anyone else has this issue?

Yes. Even if I am enjoying someone, I am still clueless about how to act so it makes me nervous and I am waiting to mess up. I wish I could go back to not being so clueless because I had no awareness and I was a kid then so I never worried about messing up. If someone treated me like crap, I still talked to them.

Thanks for the feedback. For me, I guess I'm alone and lonely. But...... I can get fine by being alone though in recent years it becomes more and more boring and I feel like I'm missing out on things. I can also relate to a few things that were said such as being clueless - yes, even on the rare occasions that I'm interested in a person, I don't know exactly what do to with it. I can't talk too much before I've "exhausted" myself and sooner or later I might say something weird.

The trick seems to be to find people to do things with, rather than just talk to. Mutual interests can fill in the gaps for clumsy conversationalists.

Make sure to remind your counselor that you have problems to solve beyond just friendships. Some counselors who have AS clients will tend to focus too much on socializing to the exclusion of other useful skills, such as self-regulation, organization, self-advocacy, etc.

Congrats on the diagnosis. It's always useful to have a name for something. Helps you define the problems better, so you can solve them--and gives you the refreshing knowledge that other people have had the same problems before you. Not that life with AS is particularly difficult; but the difficulties do tend to be different for AS than for NTs, and if you don't know how to handle them, they can totally drive you crazy.

For me it usually doesn't have anything to do with the person. I can talk to, in a way, several people (not all at once) but if it is a topic that makes no sense to me, then I just sit there. But if is a topic I understand, I can join and sometimes seem normal. I hate the fact that my AS isn't noticable enough that people see it. If they did, I would feel more confident that they can take it into consideration.

Sorry, I'm starting to get off topic. But to answer the original post, it depends on what they are talking about, not who they are.