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03 Feb 2007, 5:45 pm

so I was looking at the parents forum... and some one said soemthing about "passing" what is this?



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03 Feb 2007, 5:50 pm

ShadesOfMe wrote:
so I was looking at the parents forum... and some one said soemthing about "passing" what is this?


i'd say it depends on the context in which it was said.


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03 Feb 2007, 6:01 pm

it could mean passing, like passing the car in font of you.
or maybe passing a stone.
you could be passing something to someone.
and u could be passing a class.
or you could be passing as normal :D



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03 Feb 2007, 6:45 pm

If its ME passing as normal, then it is oxymoronic.



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03 Feb 2007, 6:48 pm

sorry bout the double. my wifi hiccupped



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03 Feb 2007, 7:12 pm

YEP, CONTEXT is IMPORTANT!

He is passing on might mean he is dieing.
Passing a car might mean getting ahead of him.
Passing a class means being able to go to the next higher level.
Passing the buck means to not take responsibility.
Passing for/as something else might mean looking like.

That last context might be the most likely for this forum. I tried "passing as normal" for all my life. It never really worked. Apparantly, MOST AS people try to pass as normal. Most here could probably pass for normal to some degree.

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03 Feb 2007, 7:14 pm

If it was 'passing water' it means urination. :)



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03 Feb 2007, 7:24 pm

Perhaps some died or took a dump



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03 Feb 2007, 7:27 pm

No it has to do with parents, and how they don't understad what it's like to be an aspie,. some learn to pass but they grow tired of it.



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03 Feb 2007, 7:34 pm

shadesofme,

You or they likely misspoke. The most likely interpretation is that some part of the group "learned to emulate NT behaviour well enough to look like NTs", but they became tired of the hassles and not being themselves, and STOPPED! That is kind of what happened to me, although I never really FULLY passed.

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03 Feb 2007, 7:42 pm

In poker, 'pass' means to fold. You give up on the hand, you know it is the worst and you know you cannot bluff your opponent out of folding a better hand. You are done with it, you 'pass', you fold.

Other than this, i cannot think of another definiton, which has not been covered already.

I too am bewhildered.
Some people say some funny things, different terminoligies and phrases, dialects and translations.



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03 Feb 2007, 8:22 pm

'passing' often means trying to 'pass as normal', like when aspies ape NT characteristics to get along in the NT world



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03 Feb 2007, 8:22 pm

It's also used by people who are transsexual or transgender or whatever the politically correct term is. It means you "pass" as a person of the gender that you're trying to become. E.G. - A man is a transsexual and wishes to become a woman. He dresses and lives looking like a woman. If he's "passing," then that means that people who don't know he was born a man think he's a woman when they see him.



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04 Feb 2007, 4:04 am

Interesting. I was "passing" all of my life, some still thought I was weird and annoying though. Still I was passing and didn't know it. After I was diagnosed last year did I give up "passing". I felt relieved to know what was wrong with me and only then did I realize how tired I was of trying to be normal. I don't think I pass now as well as I use because I stopped trying to pass as much as I use to. It's so mentally exhausting.



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04 Feb 2007, 10:40 am

"Keep on passing by the open windows"
John Irving - Hotel New Hampshire


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04 Feb 2007, 10:44 am

Passing on genes?