You might not like my answer... sorry if it's a bit long and unwieldy.
As others have already said, the people who you accuse of being unlawful are the very people who are supposed to help you. No matter how unlawful you think they might have been, they hold the power, not you. People in power, unfortunately, don't take kindly to being exposed, sued or accused of anything.
You're deaf? You have a beautiful speaking voice and can express yourself extremely well. I had absolutely no trouble understanding what you were saying. You also write very well. Both are very much in your favour!
What I'm going to suggest is that you can achieve much more with honey than with vinegar, meaning that if you approach people to be your advocate in this situation, whether an organisation or another person, or you make a direct approach, it has to be calmly, kindly and ONLY with the goal of getting the services you need. It can't be about revenge or accusations. It has to be about you not understanding why you can't get what you think is your right.
If you are vomiting, and so clearly anxious (rightly or wrongly), and you're calling this an emergency, others may not see it this way. Clearly you are worried, but are you coming across as desperate or aggressive?
You clearly have a roof over your head. Do you have enough food? What exactly is the emergency? You might think it's an emergency, but others may not. See what I mean? I'm not being unkind, just looking at it from another perspective.
What's the goal? To sue them or bring charges against them and still not get what you need? Or is it more important to get the services you need?
I'm wondering if there's a reason you are not getting what you need. What are their reasons for refusing what you think is your right as a disabled person? I would want that in writing. So maybe write some very calm letters asking for an explanation of refusal of service.
Is there some kind of Ombudsman you can go to, or a mediator for the various departments? I would be calling or writing to them asking for the services you need. Not in an accusatory manner, just sound bewildered that you can't seem to get some help, and even that you seem to be misunderstood. You can't let your anger show through, or accuse people - it doesn't achieve much, as you've seen. It actually works against you.
Why are they refusing you service? Do they have a lawful reason? Approach this calmly. Look at things from their perspective and see what you would do if you were them dealing with someone who accuses them of wrongdoing?
Life is not fair, no matter whether you think it should be or not. It is unfair for many people every single day. You have to find a way around it, calmly, nicely and persistently. Think laterally... maybe there's an avenue you haven't tried yet? Or approach it differently.
You have to have the outcome in mind - getting the services you need.
If you have to apologise to the people you've been accusing (no matter what terrible things they did), just to get services, then you may have to do so, much as that seems awful. Just explain how distraught you are and that you don't have the skills to know how to do this properly. Who cares if that's true or not? Think of the goal - to get services. It's a game of sorts and you have to have a winning strategy. A different one than you've had to date.
I would be putting all thoughts of lawsuits aside for the moment. It's far more important to get services you are entitled to, than to go through a protracted court case with an unknown outcome. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be angry at what's happened to you, but you can't show that when dealing with them. You will achieve much more being kind and professional, no matter how unfair it seems. Engendering sympathy and empathy may get you further. Getting your anger and anxiety calmed totally could be the key.
Unproven (in court) accusations, while naming names could land you in court for defamation. I think the people you accuse, may have every right to request incriminating evidence (in videos) be taken down, especially when they are unproven in court, or if there's a court case pending.
Anyone can report any video to YouTube, with a good enough reason and YouTube will take it down if the reason is good enough for them.
Try to ask for an official reason why they won't help you, on paper (or recorded). Then you'll have something to take to someone higher up and something for them to work on. Maybe it's because you come across as intelligent, able to speak for yourself and knowledgeable about what's going on, that someone is deciding you don't need a particular service. Or maybe it's about quotas and them not having resources to help, and nothing to do with you. I don't know.
Be clear about what services you want, and if it's your right to receive them, be persistent, but with a different approach, or find someone who would be willing to advocate for you. I would, gladly, but I'm in Australia, so that isn't practical.
Good luck and let us know what happens.
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Your Aspie score: 130 of 200
Your NT score: 103 of 200
HSP: 27 of 27
BAPT: You scored 90 aloof, 107 rigid and 63 pragmatic
03 Mar 2012, 11:48 pm
