Do you try to avoid confrontation?

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Earlier i used to fight it out
But then i used to get guilt consciousness
So i started avoiding confrontations and many times made a fool out of myself.
I noticed that where others would go out and fight it out i have kept mum

Yep, being a guy is sweet like that. It's also cool in America being a guy, as we have a culture of Lone Ranger kinda individualism being super cool, so you can get away with being oblivious to others as long as you're super cool.

If I could add a tangent to that, I have an Aspie friend (diagnosed in childhood, not self diagnosed) and he had a friend or two who took steroids for working out. So, as an experiment, he tried a very small dose of testosterone, he took about 1/3 of what's normal for a lower end cycle, just to see what it did. As far as I know, he didn't like, work out a ton or anything when he took it, just took it to see what would happen. He said the biggest change was, he'd argue with everyone much more than before, like he'd correct his teachers in class and like totally rock people's entire worldviews in arguments and stuff. He was also a bit more confident, but he said the biggest change was that. He toned it down after he figured out it was the testosterone doing it, but yeah, more testosterone made him much more argumentative and much more able to confront people in general, along with being a general confidence booster.

This quote from uncyclopedia seemed to match his situation like exactly:

I avoid it like the plague. I'm extremely sensitive to conflict and it's a huge overload for me. If two people whom I don't even know start raising their voices near me I start to get tunnel vision and panic and I feel like I have to get away as soon as possible.

So yeah, biiiig avoidance factor.

I don't LIKE confrontation. But I'll stand up for myself or others. So I guess my sense of justice wins out over not liking confrontation. If I'm short-changed, it depends on the situation and my mood. A lot of times I'll do something I'm not proud of and just tell them to keep the change, as they obviously need it more than I do.

As hard as I and other AS'ers may try to avoid confrontation, I find sometimes people just push the wrong buttons in me and the volcano explodes. Obviously the results are usually not the best for me. I'll keep trying.

'A' stands for avoidance, not apple in my book. I completely shut down and cannot speak.

I try to avoid confrontations at all costs. I really cannot handle them. Which is one of the reasons to why I don't leave my house much at all unless it is with a friend/family or a short walking distance.

Oh yeah. I'm actually avoiding a big one right now. I just discovered a discrepancy in the financing paperwork for the new truck I just bought, to the tune of a couple thousand dollars. Despite the pressing financial need to resolve this I've put off calling the dealership for 2 weeks so far.

Well,

It depends? I see the world more in terms of black and white. If there is a cause I feel strong about I will fight to the dying end. As my wife says I get a bone in my mouth like a dog and will not back down. I don't like confrontation, but if cornered watch out. I see life or situations as laws, and if you break one watch out.

I avoid confrontation like the plague. I am afraid of hurting others, therefore I am afraid of confrontation.

I'm ok with confrontation. If I think it's a bad idea, I'll make myself avoid it. I'll confront someone carefully If I think it will help with something.

"Without confrontation there is no progress"

Funny how I was just saying this is another thread. For me respect is earned. It isn't just given because your title says your important. Policeman or Deli Sandwich owner, you earn your respect you aren't given it. I believe a childhood of learning to take control of the situations myself, no one else helped me with my bully problem so I helped myself and guess what it made some kids leave me alone so there is progress. So, yes, I am a confrontational. If I see hypocrisy I will call it out. If someone's does something that I disagree with, I will state so. I'll no longer be a welcoming mat. To me it isn't about being a burden. It's about respecting myself. It's about not letting people take advantage of you. I will not be manipulated or coerced into something. I am my own person. Therefore, if you do something that I disagree with I will confront. Even i that's a horrible way to go. I feel like a society samurai. A samurai of the society. I stick to my moral code always.

Yes, I avoid confrontation as best as I can, but confrontation usually finds me.

It depends on the issue(s) and how strongly i feel about it.

TheSunAlsoRises

Unless I have something important to say I usually don't. Since my diagnosis last year I have payed attention this and gotten better but not much. I only don't avoid nessairy with people who I know and really like, so really my girlfriend, and about 5 other friends. Strangers I avoid at all costs

I usually avoid it unless I'm (or my friends / family are) being personally attacked, judged, threatened, bullied, etc. and / or my sense of injustice / unfairness is awakened. I've recently gotten better at letting small stuff go, though.