What do you not understand about the neurotypical world?

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The inability to step outside a situation and look at it logically and the way they will discount the best solution for a problem because it's "not the done thing." I get very frustrated when someone asks for advice and I give a great solution (problem solving is my thing!) but they're like "oh, I couldn't possibly do that," and there's no valid reason not to do it.

And having to "win" at really petty things, like one time my brother and dad were arguing about who should pick up a can and walk two feet to put it in the bin, I just did it myself in the end, I mean, what was the point?

They like to apply things to everyone, rather than on an individual basis.

I guess they need their "order" too; it's just on a larger scale.

Good grief!

What do I NOT understand about it?

There isn't enough space on Wrong Planet servers to contain that information.

Might sound like a joke, but I'm actually very serious.

I do not understand NT's so much that it seems like I do not even know what I do not understand about them.

Everything

Whatever there is to not understand

My #1 is emotion.
#2 is boredom is guess, that feeling is alien to me. What is true boredom like?

The rest I understand through logic.

Jason.

I don't understand how NTs like being with other people to the extent they do. In fact it is incomprehensible to me how they bear it at all. And it is problematic that most just assume that everyone is like that. I find that they positively try to be with each other as much as possible while most of my efforts are and have to be devoted to the exact opposite otherwise I get overwhelmed.

In second place comes the desire for influence and status, for appearing a certain way in other people's eyes. When I see films about power struggles or social networking I don't get why they are doing it at all. I'd rather just sit somewhere by myself.

I don't understand why most men are so passionate about sport (especially football) and can talk for hours about it. I mean, I can appreciate the skill on display when a good goal is scored but I couldn't get emotional about it. It seems like a really important bonding thing and I feel more of an outsider than ever when the talk turns to sport.

As an aside, I do find it a bit comical when men talk as though they are actually part of their team - as in "we played really badly last night"

I also don't understand certain banter. For example, it's very common for someone in a group that's a bit quiet to say "It's all Dave's fault" (Dave being a random person in that group). This is apparently really funny.

Another example is when people talk about something trivial (like types of biscuit) for ages, all smiling and looking at each other. I get the feeling that they're not really talking about biscuits and that something else is going on but I've no idea what it is. I often get paranoid at this point.

At an instinctual level, almost nothing

thanks for sharing more please

I don't understand why some people have to make friends on holiday, ones who they'll never see again. All right, general small talk with a few people is OK, but some people seem to want to get so involved with these strangers who they'll never see again, especially when girls have to feel the need to get chatting to a man who is probably married, or men have to feel the need to get chatting to some girl who is probably married. And I feel like saying, ''excuse me, but we're supposed to stick together, you got plenty of friends back home!'' Or when you go with a male relative and they really have a crush on the 20-year-old cocktail waitress at the bar and they just suddenly end up talking to eachother, then he gets her number or email address, and when he gets home he's waiting for a reply on the internet or his phone and doesn't seem to realise that this girl is so pretty that she gets talking to at least one man on the tour every week. Or when you go with a female relative and a man at the bar is a little flirty, and the girl falls for it, even though he's only interested in her because she's wearing a mini-skirt.

I think NTs can be so naive sometimes! Or do they just do this deliberately so they can get back home and boast to their mates that they got chatting to this really hunky man at the bar or this really gorgeous cocktail waitress?