What do you not understand about the neurotypical world?

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When people flirt and say sexual things to each other and they don't really mean it. Why they get offended at being viewed as sexual flirts. I had a big argument on the net about why there's loads of flirting even though they say they have a girlfriend yet they flirt with another girl. Why is flirting and saying things you wouldn't actually do not lying?

Apparently adults flirt and banter and need to talk sexually to relax after a working day. I just don't see the point.

I was told I was being rude and insulting when I asked why they say stuff they don't mean and why they are offended at being called sexually rude when they themselves said the sexually rude stuff. They said this is who we are in real life so why get offended at being called sexually rude?

Why people can call themselves slu*ty yet take offence when someone says they are slu*ty.

Why they neglect to befriend people who are 'different';
how they ALWAYS understand each other's emotions and hidden agendas;
why they frequently club and socialize at parties and other events (another reason I can't make friends, since I don't drink or party);
and why they feel this NEED to constantly talk about each other behind their backs. Why the hell be friends with these people if you don't like them? Is it because it benefits them somehow? Drives me bonkers.
I'm sure there's more that I'm not thinking of right now.

I don't understand NT's full stop.

Tbh, I understand their behaviour very well, just not some of their internal states. Whenever I didn't understand something I found it thrilling and experimented until I worked it out, rather than lamenting it. Try that.

Why do some people think of people that are single as being miserable? I have had people say "I feel sorry for you" just because my sisters have boyfriends and I don't.. I am not interested in dating (never have been),. I don't get why I should feel bad about myself just because they have boyfriends and I don't. sheesh.

and in the case of Melbourne folk:
There are lots of people here that enjoy Australian Rules football (AFL). But what I don't understand is why do some fans look down on others that choose to watch other sports (like basketball) or like to do something else with their time?

I don't understand the NTs' purpose of getting heavily drunk. I see nothing wrong with drinking alcohol lightly or moderately, but I think drinking tons of alcohol to get severely intoxicated is a DIFFERENT story. I hear stories about drunken college students fighting people, saying and doing crazy stupid sh*t, and wetting themselves with their own urine, and it doesn't look cool or funny at all. Is this supposed to be an NT social thing?????

I don't get why a lot of young people congratulate eachother for getting drunk, as though getting drunk will accomplish so many things. Or when people who are introverted or moral get drunk, everybody gathers round them and are so proud of them.

Also I don't understand why alcoholics get so socially accepted. There is a drunk men who stands on the corner of the street singing randomly all day long several days a week, but people just happily sit near him and don't bat an eyelid, but I wouldn't want to sit near him, no matter how harmless I know he is or how used to him I am, I still try to avoid him because he creeps me out. I don't care how harmless or familiar he is, he still sounds rather threatening, especially to those who are new to the town and have never seen him before.

But I know full well that if I was standing there on the corner singing loudly in a deep, groany voice, drunk out of my head and oblivious to how pathetic I looked, I bet I would get funny looks and ridicule and a politeman would probably come along and sort me out, even if I was being harmless. I suppose it's a case of ''it's all right if a man does it but if a woman does it...'' thing.

Willful self-deception and joy in ignorance.

I really don't get why so many NTs revel in such.

Another thing that I don't understand is the cheating situation in romantic NT relationships. For instance, I met one girl in college and added her onto my Facebook list. I found out in her profile that she had a boyfriend, who I never met on campus, but still decide to chat with her online. One day, her boyfriend became furious that I was chatting with her online. So her deleted me from her Facebook list and told me to f*** off. There were also instances in which some girls were unwilling to talk to me just because they had boyfriends. It appears as if those people are trying to avoid cheating on their romantic partners with other people.

So let me get this straight. Am I not supposed to talk to girls that have boyfriends or what? And if I dating a girl, am I not allowed to talk to and make friends with other girls?

I don't understand why the best idea isn't the idea that wins, but instead NTs choose based on subtle social politics. I have struggled with this since elementary school.

I don't understand why NTs refer to my style of communication as negative or angry when I'm simply being logical.

I don't understand how NTs can function with very little quiet or alone time.

I don't understand how NTs can disparage me for breaking social rules that they don't follow with any consistency.

I don't understand how NTs can increasingly defy logic and betray their core values for love, and deem this admirable, and not connect this to the rising divorce rate.

I don't understand why they think that being different is a bad thing and they try to make us normal against our will.

In every debate, or conflict, uninvolved people always take sides - even when they would not normally agree with the other people taking the same side. Very, very few people look for solutions to the problem.

(A recent example - AS kid acts violently towards parent. Everyone is with one of them and against the other. Nobody is looking for a solution with the greatest overall benefit, or even for any solution.)

What do I not understand about the non-autistic world? Well...

The fact that you have to have the latest stuff, gadgets, wear the latest fashions even if you hate them etc - 'you have to look like this or you're out of season', 'you have to get this or you're missing out..' - Why should I care if I am out of season when I can wear something I like? And what am I missing out on??
The fact that my behaviour is considered abnormal (bearing in mind I am relatively harmless), yet it is perfectly normal to (as examples) bully or manipulate people, make yourself look good at the expense of others, lie to people, put others down to make a point or generally be nasty for the sake of it (all behaviours that I consider to be quite harmful) - what now???
The need to be like everyone else or do what everyone else is doing - what is wrong with a bit of good old individuality?
The way some people put on a false 'front' to make themselves appear 'better'. What these people need to realise is that their behaviour is really obvious from the rubbish that comes out of their mouth to the fake laugh they have practiced. And why would you want to engage with those who are not going to accept you for who you really are anyway???

And people think they have the right to say we're not normal? All that I have listed above is not normal, it's common, but it doesn't mke it normal.