The autism social rule book.

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Sometimes people praise you because they want something from you, not because you actually did something right.

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Don't be TOO reliable. Be reliable enough to make a good friend, but occasionally say something then do another. Just do this occasionally, not every time. Like for example, if you said to your friend that you wasn't sure what you're doing on Friday but will ring her Thursday night to say if you're coming out or not, perhaps don't ring her at all until perhaps a few nights later. I'm sure she wouldn't care if you do this sometimes. Like I said, don't do it every time, but just sometimes just don't quiet do what you say, because when you become too reliable, people start to think ''oh she will do anything I say'' and will just take your trusting nature for granted, and then when something does happen when it's too late, they get the hump. Not all people do this, but I've found a lot of people do.

Don't think that, if you do everything right and everything goes well, you won't just randomly implode anyway.

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Perhaps I will use an example from an experience I had at college last week.

My professor was showing the class how to colour correct film and so he was sitting in front of a computer with three monitors.

He was struggling to turn on the third monitor, so I decided to sit next to him and trouble shoot.

I pressed a button and the monitor turned on; he replied, "Christopher, that's bad form".

Even though I was confused at his response, in an NT setting, what I did was socially inappropriate. A friend later told me I probably "embarrassed" him in front of the class room.

So next time you get into trouble shooting mode - remember where you are and who you're doing it for.

Maybe ask if you could trouble shoot?

Not sure if this is helpful.

Here's another rule:

If you're still in school, don't disturb your teachers during their break to ask questions about black holes or other things you think are more important than your teacher's break. They don't want to answer your questions during break time.

Never call a compulsive liar a liar; They'll just insult your intelligence by say something like "I never lie" - yeah, cuz the best way to respond to the accusation of being a liar is by lieing lol - Then, they'll call you a liar and convince people around you they are right. Flippin' sociopaths . . .

Always remember that the shared illusion the people at your workplace want to bold about who they are as a company and how they want to be perceived (e.g., honest, helpful, fighting for justice, whatever) is far more important than actually achieving that. In facts while they will only make token efforts at being honest/whatever, they will despise you if you try to help make their illusion a reality.

Every time you forget this, you will get burned one way or another. It's better to just ignore the difference, do your job, and go home to reality.

Don't tell people you hate toddlers, unless you know they share the same hatred as you do. Otherwise, people take it personally and think just because you are not one for toddlers, you hate their toddler, which isn't the case.

Don't laugh at something on your own. It's sometimes impossible to keep laughter back when you've found something really funny out in public, but somehow people seem to manage not to laugh, unless they are with someone.

When you're on your own, don't show any emotion, just act predictable, ordinary, and almost robot-like. If you break this rule, you will get stared at like you're mad.

Although no-one is perfect, you are expected to be perfect when you're out in public, so be perfect. ( )

Remember that Autistics are not the only ones who can't put themselves in other people's shoes. NTs are actually just as bad, so perhaps one day take a note of all the selfish things NTs do or how self-centered they act towards you or eachother. You will soon get my point.

Thanks for reading. Have a good day.

Never say someone's baby is ugly. Wait until the parents and family are gone and then say it. You must pretend how cute you think it say and say things like "aw she is so cute, look at her." If it's a boy, say "he."

Dont haggle in supermarkets.
Dont haggle in charity shops.
If forced to guess someones age, dont reply to their answer with "oh, is that all?".