DrowningMedusa wrote:
INTJ here, and I love that conversation opening!
"How are you?" is such an awkward thing to say. If you were really interested in how the other person was, it would be a different story - then you would sit and listen as someone gave you a real account of how they are... and I mean, really, how boring would that be?
Unless you're an anthropologist or a psychologist...
A 2.5 second conversation that goes "Hi! How are you?" - "Good, and you?" - "Good!" will never feel natural to me. I've programmed myself to say it in my early twenties, so I could fit in better, but it sounds a bit robotic whenever I say it.
A native German teacher told my class NEVER ask "Wie geht es Ihnen?"(How goes it with you?) unless you REALLY want to know!
As for the conversation YOU spoke of? I had a lot of the "rude", "interupting", etc... run out of me like when I was 6. You have never heard my mother. She feels that I will never get anywhere if I fail to open the door for her even once! I'm curteous, but it isn't like I spend my whole day opening doors. People always interrupted me without comment, but I never dared interrupt them, even at a 1 minute pause! Hey, people STILL complained into my teens, so it wasn't perfect. Well, in the 60s, people seemed to care. As time passed, they cared less and less. TODAY, I am LITERALLY shocked when someone responds to my "OK, and YOU?"! It is RARE that they answer.
Steve