aspecialspace wrote:
Do lights/sirens bother you? If you were approached by law enforcement, would it make it easier for you if they turned off the lights and sirens?
And finally, when they are asking you questions, should they try making eye contact with you or does that just make it worse?
A great addendum!
Lights are a BIG BIG issue! I have to squint and turn away from them, and that causes the police to immediately think I'm either stoned (resulting in dilated pupils/hypersensitive to light), or I'm hiding my eyes. I have an autism info card, which I printed up, that explains light on the autism eyes. It has helped a lot.
Sirens no problem, in fact I collect and restore vintage Cold War air raid sirens. That's one of my biggest special interests. I have one of the largest, loudest sirens ever built, installed and operational on the house. In my avatar, I'm "stunt lifiting" a 590-lb Federal Model SD10 siren.
Eye contact is also a problem leading officers to think I'm drunk or on drugs. I have "forced" eye contact, meaning I force myself to make it to be polite, but that's obviously weird to those who don't understand. When having a serious conversation, I can't connect thoughts to words, nor can I comprehend the other person's words when I'm trying to make eye contact. So I tend to look off to the side, or at the floor, and once again, that's often taken as belligerence or rudeness/disrespect by the other person. Police would do well to use gentle eye contact; a glance to let me know I'm the one they're aiming the contact toward, and otherwise let their eyes wander or maybe stand beside me and look at whatever I'm looking at; rather than to be face-to-face. If that's impractical due to the officer's fear of safety, to take his/her eyes off me, then at least accept that I am not comfortable, and be reasonable about it.
Charles